Addiction

Addiction and teens: What to do when addiction touches your teen

Parents may find it shocking to know that teens who drink are 50 times more likely to use cocaine than teens who never consume alcohol. Before you pull your son or daughter out of public school and lock them in the basement, be advised of some ways to prevent teen drug use before it starts, the warning signs of active drug use and the resources available to adolescents who may already be experimenting with substances.

Think Prevention

Teen drug use can often be prevented with open and honest communication between parent and child. Studies have shown that teenagers whose parents talk to them on a regular basis about the dangers of drug use are 42 percent less likely to use drugs than those whose parents remain silent.

Do YOUR Homework

Speaking to your teen about drug and alcohol use may seem uncomfortable and even impossible. Taking the time to do your homework and familiarize yourself with various drugs of abuse can greatly improve the outcome of these discussions. Be sure to research some of the dangers and consequences of doing drugs, and be prepared to share this information with your teen.

A great resource for concerned parents can be found at www.theantidrug.com. This website has information on popular drugs of abuse by teenagers today and lists the warning signs parents can look for in their child’s behavior. This site also offers a free anti-drug newsletter for parents, aimed at raising awareness of the dangerous new drugs teens may be experimenting with.

Create an Atmosphere for Honesty

When focusing on prevention, remember to stay proactive and keep the lines of communication open between you and your teen. It is vital that you create a calm atmosphere in which your son or daughter feels comfortable approaching you honestly, without fear of judgment or punishment. They must feel they are able to ask questions, talk about peer pressure and discuss any struggles they may be going through at this difficult stage in life.

Recognize the Red Flags

Once the routine conversations have begun, it is imperative to stay vigilant of your teen’s behavior and activity. Be aware of the tell-tale warning signs that may appear when your teen is using. Most teen’s behavior changes rapidly once they start getting high. These changes often go unnoticed unless you know what to look for.

A dramatic drop in grades at school, changes in social group and increasingly secretive behavior all point to the fact that something (even if not drug use) is wrong in a teen’s life. These red flags typically warrant investigation by a concerned parent or teacher.

Also, note that possession and frequent use of mouthwash and cologne may signal the fact that your teen may be attempting to cover up the smell of alcohol or marijuana. Eye drops are often used to remove the redness of the eyes caused by smoking pot.

A teenager who may be abusing drugs might also begin to borrow money frequently and even steal money or items of value from the house. Narcotics or controlled substances stored in the medicine cabinet - such as Valium, Xanax or Vicodin - may begin to come up missing, as well.

Perhaps the most noticeable warning sign is a dramatic change in the sleeping and eating habits of your son or daughter. Marijuana, for example - a drug that 2 out of 10 eighth graders have reportedly tried - causes the user to be extremely hungry. Sedatives such as Xanax produce slurred speech and extreme tiredness, often causing the user to sleep for longer periods than normal. Users of methamphetamines, on the other hand, don’t sleep or eat for days and even weeks.

Busted!

You’ve done your homework, had the conversations, stayed vigilant about the warning signs and know for sure your teen is getting high. What now? Perhaps the most important thing to remember as a parent is that you didn’t cause it, and you can’t fix it. Knowing this, it is time to seek professional help.

Crisis Intervention

The first line of defense is usually your family doctor. He or she may want to refer your teen to an addiction professional. An addiction counselor will be able to assess the severity of the problem and recommend the appropriate actions. The next step will depend on the severity of the problem and what drugs are being used.

For example, if your child is smoking marijuana with friends on the weekends and demonstrates a desire to stop, perhaps the counselor will recommend individual counseling, outpatient meetings two or three nights a week and Narcotics Anonymous meetings.

If, however, your teen has been taking Xanax and drinking alcohol every day for an extended period of time, they may have to be hospitalized for 5 to 10 days in order to be medically stabilized before they undergo treatment.

Once the detoxification process is complete, a counselor may recommend they get into an inpatient treatment program. These programs, typically 28 to 90 days in duration, will educate the teen on the disease of addiction, provide individual and group therapy and place them in a controlled environment for an extended period of time to help them adjust to living sober.

Sounds Expensive

Many programs are state funded or subsidized by the government in order to make services affordable to those in need. In fact, some programs have free services for those who meet certain income requirements. For those fortunate enough to have medical insurance, hospitalization and residential treatment is usually included in the policy.

Where Do I Go From Here?

Perhaps the programs with the best results are Narcotics Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous. These programs do not offer professional treatment, nor do they offer medical care. They do, however, provide help to those who want it and need it at no cost. The effectiveness of these programs has been attributed to the fact that they are run by the real professionals - people who have had the same problems as your teen and have found a way out by helping each other. Most successful inpatient programs generally recommend that the client attend NA and / or AA meetings after treatment.

Don’t Ever Give Up

Do your homework. Arm your teen with the facts about the dangers of drug use. Let them know they can talk to you about anything. Know the warning signs and remain vigilant. If you suspect your teen is using drugs or alcohol, seek professional help. Most importantly, don’t ever give up. You could be the only thing standing between your child and a life of addiction.

By Phill Roby
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What are some unique ways to prevent teen use of tobacco? What are the new tobacco products? Do you know any good books for parents?
Posted on 8/18/2008 8:06:00 AM by Anonymous
Think getting busted by your parents or "uncle who is a cop" is the worst thing that can happen? Think again. I had to learn for myself unfortunately, and learn the hard way. I was the teenager with the same attitude as the previous commenter, or "PartyGirlKatie21" to maintain a certain level of anonymity. I smoked pot and drank beer on the weekends, what is wrong with that, right? Sure, at the time there was nothing wrong, except that my parents had a problem with it. To make a long story relatively short, I ended up an IV drug user addicted to heroine and cocaine and whatever else I could get my shaking hands on. Drugs took my life in a direction I would have never thought possible, and I welcomed the idea of death. I am now in recovery, and at the age of 28 I am a certified addiction counselor. I don't try to tell anyone that what they are doing is wrong, but I do want people to know that there is a way out if they find themselves with an addiction. I never thought when I was 14 years old that I would go to the low places I went through because of drugs and alcohol. I never thought I would be begging God to take my life at night and curse him in the morning when I woke up. I never thought I would look into the mirror and not recognize the man looking back. If you are struggling with a child with a problem with drugs, or are a teenager looking for a way out there is hope. Perhaps you don't have to go to the lengths I did. Phill Roby proby28@gmail.com
Posted on 7/25/2008 12:34:00 AM by Anonymous
you can do everything for your child love them so much you would give your life for them. I read in here it must be the parent doing something wrong to the child but that is wrong. I think sometimes you can love you child to much. I would give mu life for my child and I support my child in everything he does, but he got into with the wrong people and started to do drugs. We are going everything we can to help him. That is what you call LOVE know matter what they do you still LOVE them and support them. So sometimes it not the parents fault. That the easy person to blame. Sometime it just the people they get with and they want to be cool and they think that if they don't do what the other kids are doing they won't be cool. You as a parent can never give up on your child and show them that you will love them forever
Posted on 7/18/2008 11:30:00 PM by Anonymous
hello, i am 12 years old and i tried smoking 3 times. at first i liked it, but it really is disgusting. DON"T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ( i am also a proffesional track athlete and i don't wanna ruin my athletic abilities!!!!!!!!!!! ) PEACE OUT.
Posted on 7/8/2008 8:36:00 PM by Anonymous
I wanted to add that not all pot smokers and cigarette smokers are bad people! i have been smoking pot & cigs for a very long time! i feel like none of you have the right to put someone down that is an addict! we are no different then you! i am a college educated woman who has a good job and a family too! i choose to smoke cigs and to get high, thats my choice, not yours! thanks!
Posted on 7/1/2008 4:46:00 PM by Anonymous
Drugs are probably one of the worst things on Earth. I see kids at my school drinking alcohol or smoking after school. I even know some of the kids who do that stuff, but I never followed them and have been pressured by them.
Posted on 6/26/2008 5:18:00 PM by Anonymous
Don't give up because there is always some light no matter how dim it might seem.
Posted on 6/25/2008 8:40:00 AM by Anonymous
What does smoking do for you?? Nothing, except ruining your life! so don't do it!
Posted on 6/2/2008 5:43:00 PM by Anonymous
As a teen, I think everything this article says is right. In reply to the previous two comments, first of all I've lost friends because of a drug addiction. It started with just smoking week, then turned into a hit of E or two for a dance, to an intense cocaine addiction & the use of meth and other devestating drugs. I'm not a loser, and I'm not saying I still don't hang out with people who use drugs, but I choose not to. Yes everyone dies, but don't you want to lead a long good life, and accomplish as much as you're capable of. I'm 18, and just because I don't do drugs doesn't mean I don't know how to party and have fun, I'm not a nerd & I have lots of friends, and I'm going to grow old as healthily as I can, without torturing my body for a quick fix.
Posted on 6/1/2008 5:59:00 PM by Anonymous
Drugs are bad. like seriously who would do them. do you want to die? well i sure dont. Doesnt everyone want to live forever. I know I want too. There people need to get a life and stop smoking? dont you agree! just people get a life!!1 be happy drink juice
Posted on 5/30/2008 1:03:00 PM by Anonymous
Drug abuse is definitly a problem with today's teens. Drug ABUSE is the problem. Many teenagers are perfectly capible of using most drugs responibly. As long as your usage causes a relitivly low impact on your health, and does not get in the way of stuff like work or school, what's the problem?
Posted on 5/28/2008 7:17:00 PM by Anonymous
why do teens smoke at a young age.its so sad to see young teens just throw there life away. i wish i can help.maybe its because of the parents either not paying enough attention to them or they just don't care. smoking is a bad influence and especially to your future kids. this is for all the teens out there. You don't need to throw your life away because of something your parents are doing. remember it's your life & your choice so choose the right one not the wrong ones.
Posted on 5/12/2008 5:58:00 PM by Anonymous
It's interesting to read the comments that are pro marijuana smoking - check out the spelling errors! Our son became addicted to pot and ended up in the court system with a criminal record and he's only 15. He has been kicked out of programs because he cannot give up pills or pot. He's admitted to getting high daily for over two years. Not only has pot messed up his life, it's affected his family, school and he's lost his job. The next step is being homeless and addicted if he can't turn himself around. Sure, go ahead and light a blunt with all your loser friends. I'm sure you'll get ahead in life with this lifestyle. A Mom
Posted on 5/11/2008 5:13:00 PM by Anonymous
Dont Smoke or snort or whatever DONT GET HIGH it may feel good for a moment but then u crash then cant do anything then lose your job or drop out then... Overall- RUIN YOUR WHOLE LIFE
Posted on 4/23/2008 8:25:00 PM by Anonymous
DONT DO DRUGS... IT RUINS YOUR LIFE .
Posted on 4/21/2008 12:13:00 PM by Anonymous
I think that talking with your children about what they are doing outside of the home or behind your back is the right thing to do. It may seem awkward to open up with your children about adult matters, but if you start talking to them when they are young, you'd be surprised how much they listen. Kids absorb like spounges...if you talk, they will listen, just don't stop talking to them. Don't only try to keep them away from tobacco-->even though it is BAD, as everyone else noted, but other things too. Making your children aware of the dangers is the best prevention method. : ]
Posted on 4/7/2008 6:22:00 PM by Anonymous
U DONT HAVE TO SMOKE TO FIT IN!!!
Posted on 3/6/2008 3:04:00 PM by Anonymous
Smoking is a very bad thing!! U think it's not harming you, but once you start feeling drowsy, hurt, sick and peer pressured, YOU WILL KNOW SOMETHING IS WRONG.... DON'T SMOKE, NOT ONLY FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR HEALTH, BUT ALSO FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR LIFE AND THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU!!
Posted on 3/6/2008 3:02:00 PM by Anonymous
To those of you who think that some drugs are OK and you think you won't get into other drugs if you only use marijuana? You are kidding yourself. People you get your drugs from, do tend to put thinkgs in that as well. Like cigarettes they also put things like embalming fluid in their stash. Marijuana can lead to the use of Hash, Acid, and any other amphenamine out there. Drugs are drugs, whether a cigarette or marijuana, you get hooked on them both, and then the next thing you know, you're on to something stronger.
Posted on 2/24/2008 1:41:00 PM by Anonymous
drugs are never good for anyone it destoys are lives and everyone in it well for the people who value thier lives keep up the good work ill be praying for you all cindy
Posted on 2/5/2008 10:30:00 PM by Anonymous
hi my name is madison and i want to tell you that smoking is the worst thing to do, anyway it is to me
Posted on 2/4/2008 8:57:00 AM by Anonymous
smoking is not very good for you
Posted on 2/4/2008 8:52:00 AM by Anonymous
i feel that drug abuse is wrong. i'm a hipocrit for saying that because i myself use drugs, but i feel that only certain drugs are okay to be doing. marijuana is no big deal, but cocaine and meth are out of the question. watch what you get into, you don't want to be stuck in a bad situation when you're dealing with the heavy drugs. just think about which ones you're doing and be careful with them. a little drug expirements are okay, just don't get caught up in them to the point of addiction.
Posted on 2/3/2008 6:19:00 PM by Anonymous
i like smoking it makes my lunges feel funny
Posted on 1/31/2008 1:08:00 PM by Anonymous
yea. this is alex hi everyone
Posted on 1/31/2008 11:54:00 AM by Anonymous
smoking is not bad
Posted on 1/31/2008 10:39:00 AM by Anonymous
drugs are bad!!!
Posted on 1/31/2008 9:44:00 AM by Anonymous
hi
Posted on 1/30/2008 11:05:00 AM by Anonymous
hi my name is chrystal i just wanted to say that people who dont smoke, dont ever start. you will have less activities to do in your ife. i an only 16 years old and i have been smokking for 3 years now and it has been hell trying to quit!!!
Posted on 1/29/2008 12:25:00 PM by Anonymous
to all who think drug are not bad... you are in denial , there is a reason you smoke them and 1 is your running away from life it takes a long time for someone to come to turms with this
Posted on 1/29/2008 10:59:00 AM by Anonymous
I rock and so does Tyra Trapper we always get stoned on friday ahh lol
Posted on 1/25/2008 2:49:00 PM by Anonymous
The ganja is not as bad as some say. You must experience it before you can judge it. I have experienced this "drug" for years now and im doing just fine. Whats the big deal?
Posted on 1/25/2008 9:19:00 AM by Anonymous
Smoking is crazy i think all it does is make you look old and scary.
Posted on 1/22/2008 4:00:00 PM by Anonymous
i think that is a great website for kids to learn the affect of smoking.
Posted on 1/21/2008 8:38:00 AM by Anonymous
You feel better when you stop.
Posted on 1/18/2008 11:02:00 AM by Anonymous
Thats wrong. people may say death is bad, but we dont have to die to experience it. you can relate by people around you. I hang out with druggies, and i see how much they fail, and how imcomplete their live are, and thats not where i want to be. If you have a friend that is using drugs, no matter how "harmless" they can be, you still need to get help from a trusted adult. smoker or non-smoker, im sure them and myself have more knowledge on drugs than you do.
Posted on 1/18/2008 9:40:00 AM by Anonymous
Im assuming you people have never smoked, thats the typical thing to say. The best way to find out about marijuana is to smoke it yourself. Then you can relate and figure out how to get your kid to stop. When you dont know what your talking about you sound like an idiot to us. These websites were written by nonsmokers and have no idea what they're talking about
Posted on 1/15/2008 10:39:00 AM by Anonymous
SMOKING IS BAD !!!!!!!!!!!!!! DON'T SMOKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted on 1/15/2008 9:03:00 AM by Anonymous
DON'T SMOKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!THE ONLY THINGIT DOES IS HARM YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted on 1/15/2008 9:01:00 AM by Anonymous