Child Support
Providing for your child after divorce
Divorce is never a pleasant experience, and a divorce involving children is even less so. Issues of custody and child support are often an outlet for parents’ feelings of anger and bitterness toward one another.
Bitterness aside, most states have taken steps to standardize child support guidelines in divorce proceedings. Child support law is frequently found in a state's family code or a similarly named area of the state code. For guidance on a state's specific child support laws, parents should always consult a local certified attorney specializing in family law. However, the following covers the basics of child support payments.
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First, parents pay child support to support children, not the former spouse. While a parent ordered to pay support for a child may feel the money will benefit the former spouse, the court will not share this point of view. It is best as a noncustodial parent to think of child support as paying your children as much as possible. Most states use a set percentage of a noncustodial parent's net income, based on the number of children involved in the suit.
Family courts, depending on the state, take a number of factors into consideration to make adjustments to the percentage when it is in the best interest of the child. For example, child support may be increased if there are unique school or medical care needs for the child to maintain a standard of living comparable to before the divorce. On the other hand, the percentage may be decreased based on the noncustodial parent's contribution to primary child health insurance, travel expenses to exercise visitation, or support of other children not subject to the suit.
Once a court order for child support is rendered, there are a few options for payments. Many states now have a Department of Child Support Services. Child Support Services acts as a neutral check clearing house, documents all payments and provides child support enforcement for claims of nonpayment. Another name for this state organization is the Child Support Agency. Large employers may not garnish pay or set up allotments unless a formal request comes from a state Child Support Agency on behalf of the child support recipient.
Failure to pay child support is not an effective way of getting back at a former spouse. When multiple months of payments are owed, a report can be filed with the appropriate state’s Child Support Services. This report may result in a child support collection action. A collection can garnish wages, impact tax returns and show up on an employer's background check. The electronic age of information is making child support enforcement easier nationwide, and it is proving more difficult for parents ordered to pay child support to hide resources from former spouses.
One myth about child support is its relationship to visitation. The only appropriate time one has anything to do with the other is when a court takes into account a parent's time with a child in order to determine a child support payment. Noncustodial parents barred from court-ordered visitation by a custodial parent may not stop child support payments at their whim. Issues concerning visitation and access to a child must be handled through a lawyer or family court. In extreme cases, parents may be court ordered to pay child support without any visitation rights to a child, especially if a child is taken into state custody.
All child support proceedings are for the best interests of the children involved in a divorce suit. While states have made great strides in standardizing calculation formulas and providing outlets for formal reports of nonpayment, it is up to parents to make child support a stress-free situation. Each divorce is different in terms of assets, situation and willingness of the parents to cooperate. The best child support payment arrangements come from cooperation and compromise between parents rather than from the restrictions imposed by a judge with minor familiarity of the parties involved.
By Elizabeth Ann West
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WE NEED INFORMATION ON BACK SUPPORT, BLOOD TESTING AND HOW CAN THE STATE GIVE YOU A CHILD WITHOUT DNA TESTING.
Posted on 1/6/2009 3:53:00 PM by Anonymous
My brother has a 18 yr old daughter who quit school in the 11th grade, won't work and has no plans for the futrure to finish school or work. My brother has payed child support for 12 years plus gives the daughter money out of his weekly pay check. My question is at what age should child support stop and an 18 year old girl start acting like the adult she says she is.
Posted on 1/5/2009 11:51:00 PM by Anonymous
I am a father of two and my wife and i are separating, we both make the same money and intend to share custody. My question is will either of us have to pay child support.
Posted on 1/5/2009 3:51:00 PM by Anonymous
well to me child support help because since my son been born his father only get him a pack of dampers and clothes for christmas but other then that his never around and never call he want me to tell him what to do if i dont tell him them he wouldnt do nothing and if i ask for money he tells me i will never put money in your hand or if i ask him to get him something he will never get it and as single ma with no job i ask my family for it but as a father he should just give it to me it for his son. i want child support and full custody but iam afarid that his going to liar about everything what should i do
Posted on 1/5/2009 12:38:00 PM by Anonymous
for the non custodail parent , there is paper work that you can do it is called modifacation for childsupport. you are entitled to a modifacation every three years, this will help you to posssibley lower your child support.
Posted on 1/1/2009 2:05:00 PM by Anonymous
Im sorry I just commented in and didnt make my self clear, My husband has been making child support payments corretly as advised for 7 years, before that he and his ex spent time raising their daughter together but seperated, which worked lovely, she was happy, moved in with another man, but maintaining a good friendship with her ex( my husband) she had the best of both worlds! Before then he spent time in and out and not a "fulltime" parent, but still had family that loved and supported his daughter when he was in need and couldn't do so, for 10 years he has been sober and an all around hands on dad, and now for the past 6 years a hands on dad and hard working husband, serioulsly if she feels she should be imbersed for back pay, why not just ask and try to communicate? You might have been able to save a friendship for your daughters sake. Funny how when someone elses life is not goiing their way the other party feels the need to crap on the one that is happy and content! What is someone to do? If you are already paying for everything you can and trying to more and don't have anywhere else to turn......
Hurt and helpless
Posted on 12/31/2008 1:16:00 AM by Anonymous
I live in Tunica, Ms and this county is a mess! DHS/Child Support/Judges all needs to the investigated. This child support law is somewhat messy and needs to be cleaned up a bit. The thing that is first silly is law letting these sorry, nonworking mothers catch a ride to the child support office and apply for child support only when they are mad at the supposely father of their baby; I know what would make them run, tell them to fill out a JOB application, they dont want to work. Second, the grandmother of a child goes to the CS office 3 days after the baby is born because she dont like the baby supposely daddy, that aint her baby, get a life stupid, and find your own baby daddy. Third, the judge in this county is just pitiful, because his life is messed up and unhappy, he finds it amusing to pick on these guys, when he should listen to both side. He sits up there with this attitude and feels he can just order men to pay what he want them to pay. I would like to see his degree of becoming a judge or any type of law authority figure. You really must see this judge (laugh). I am a woman too, but facts be known that these girls or women put more energy into filing support then raising their kids or getting a job. Always worrying about what the daddy isn't doing, YOU DO SOMETHING!!!!!!!!! My son is 22 yrs old, by force of law his father was order to pay. I did not receive payment, look like never but who cares I work and took care of my own child, not letting him off free, but my enery was on my son, his needs, feeding him, clothing him, and loving him. Fouth, what needing food stamps have to do with child support- a woman must agree. Find these little want to be mommys a job when they enter DHS. Law should order the mother to have a job before putting the father on child support. Why do child support mean money, not time taken up with the child. If I had anymore children the child support will not know of it. Stop giving women free rides, free housing, and free food.
Posted on 12/24/2008 6:29:00 AM by Anonymous
To the lady who's husband's ex is using his ss#. THAT IS IDENTITY FRAUD! THROW HER BUTT in jail! Giving her everything she wants only lets her think she can get more. I understand wanting to be left alone but she will not go away. You have tried turning the other cheek. Now fight back. I have been in that same situation. Lying down is not the way to go. You will end up paying an outrageous amount and end up paying her utilities and cc because they are in his name. PLEASE take my advice.
Posted on 12/16/2008 3:23:00 PM by Anonymous
I am a father of 2 and I have remarried to a wonderful woman who loves my children with all her heart. My ex takes me back to court every other year, I kid you not. Whenever she is in a relationship and it goes bad, she takes it out on me and my kids. I have court ordered visitaion and with shared custody, but she is primary residential. I pay child support in the amount of $400 a month and I carry the insurance and she has on again, off again insurace. The judge just recently put my insurance as primary. But heres the thing, I have my kids 10 1/2 days a month, carry the insurance, pay for 1/2 the medical bills and medicines. One year I pay for school fees and lunches and she pays for school supplies, the next she pays for school fees and lunches and I pay for school supplies. Every other year I pay for sporting events. We have been to court more times then I can count and she still keeps the kids, even though the judge is aware of men in and out my children's lives. How fair is that to me. I am active in my children't lives, I go every sporting event. I agree with the others, where is the father who is active in his children's lives and have them the way that I do and she gets by with all the stuff that she does. I think that if a father is active in his children's lives and pays for insurance and 1/2 of everthing, I don't think that child support should be paid to her. She makes more money than I do. She is a nurse. I think the goverment should take into consideration of all factors. Don't get me wrong, there is people out there who should pay supprt for their children, but not the ones who have them the way I do and pay out what I do. Someone tell me what I can do to get this corrected.
Posted on 12/13/2008 12:28:00 PM by Anonymous
i pay child support to two different ex wife a thirteeen get 126.00 and 50% of all school and sport activities that are necessary and now the child service said i have to start paying 60% of all medical bills after insurance paid where we agreed in divorce it was 50% her new husband has great insurance where he works and he has a family plan and my daughter is on his plan at no extra charge and i pay like three dollars extra to them so I don't have to have insurance myself . i want to take her back tocourt to get this agreement taken off because isn't that what child support is for and I can barely afford to give her the child support and I have a daughter who is three and i give her mother 151.38 a week and am paying 25.00 extra each week to catch up where i got behind.we got a divorce a year ago and when we deceided to start letting it come out of my check and going to child service i owe her 1200.00 and the judge signed off on that and then they started taking it out the very next week and they sent me a letter saying I was 2100.00 behind and i wrote them a letter and i have called them and my ex even told them i didn't owe that much. i have since then paid 575.00 on this and i got a letter the other week saying i was 1800.00 behind and have been paying this down for months now. they are a bunch of people who don't know what they are doing and i had paid 300.00 to my other ex wife but gave her a check didn't know had to still give it to them when i wasn't working so i gave her about 500.00 in cash like a big dummy and three in checks and they didn't count any of it not even the checks until she took me to court and they said they would take the checks i had done repaid all of this back to her these people need to be checked out
Posted on 12/4/2008 7:49:00 AM by Anonymous
My ex of 10 years owes over $60,000 in child support. He is a true deadbeat and has been in hiding for 3 years...MARC RINGEL....we will find you and you will be held accountable for not taking care of our little girls. He has remarried and is supporting his wifes child and then went on to have another child. I'm fed up with the AZ state child support office and even more frustrated that this has been allowed to go on for three years. This is about my kids and me having to work several jobs to give them a good life.
Posted on 12/3/2008 11:56:00 PM by Anonymous
I never see my child money at all
Posted on 12/2/2008 10:32:00 PM by Anonymous
I have run into almost every one of the problems listed below having 3 children of my own.
For the person which has been incarcerated for 1-1/2 years. You may check with a lawyer, but in my area, I believe you will only be responsible for arrearages dating to the first court date you attend. If you have not been to court, you may not be responsible.
As for fathers not paying comment; I have been informed by CS in my area that if they make any kind of payment, CS will not go after them, as they are making some effort to pay support (per CS). I was also told in a court that CS cannot force a person to work, as this is considered slavery and slavery was abolished years ago.
As for the visitation comment, if the mother/father is keeping the child from the other, they are in contempt of court. Visitation is a completely separate issue from child support (once established) and is dealt with separately(at least in my area). The person keeping the child from the other is in contempt, so file contempt charges in the juvenile courts in your area.
And I do not believe the father is responsible for 60% of medical bills. It is soley based upon your income differences.
Hope I have helped!
Posted on 12/1/2008 2:11:00 PM by Anonymous
My Daughter father owe over 20,000 and he pay's when ever he deside to work . Why is he allowed to do this and get away with this. I was a single mom for 10 years before i meant my husband i had to work and do everything and pay to this day he health insurence and he still father work when ever he like it . I do not understand to this day he has not been lock up he still lives in N.Y i live Pa and they have not done nothing about it he works when ever he feel like's it and they will not rise the support because he request it not to be rise even thow he owes back support it will never get paid off if the courts do nothing about it . he pay's 45 a week when its to be 81.00 a week
Posted on 11/30/2008 12:15:00 PM by Anonymous
I need someone to tell me why is it that the mother's can get whatever they ask for in court and the father's get the short end of the stick. I have two boys and I am paying child support in the amount of over a thousand dollars a month. I have been fighting to get this reduced for over two years and every time, it gets denied but if she asks for a cost of living increase, it's granted. Why are there no laws to help the fathers who are trying to take care of their children but can't live themselves. It's not fair that we have to suffer like this. After working hard two weeks, I barely make enough money to get back and forth to work. Is there anyone that knows anything to help me?
Posted on 11/27/2008 10:08:00 PM by Anonymous
i was paying child support and ins. and they came to my job and put me in jail for owing 640.00! now i'm 1340.00 behind because of being locked up! some of you just ar'nt taking the right steps to collect. in jan. i go back facing 71 more days and will probly have to do them. i am prepared to loose another job due to the screwed up systom in clermont county!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted on 11/27/2008 5:40:00 PM by Anonymous
I am owed over $30,000 in child support arrears. Since I receive checks (between $4.00 adn $17.00) they are not doing anything to retreive the owed amount of $625.00 per month. This minimal amount doesn't help. He doesn't see my son, pay health insurance (as he is court ordered to) for my son, or the alloted amount. I do not know what to do since the child support enforcement agency is no help.
Posted on 11/25/2008 10:55:00 AM by Anonymous
okay, what about a woman who has to pay child support because the father of our daughter gave her to his mother and she wants every penny she can get? My ex gave our daughter to his mother. I am now married and have two other children to support. Currently I am unemployed. I have been filling out applications,but it's not always easy to get a job. Anyway I slipped and fell a week ago & now I may need knee surgery. I am behind on my child support by three months, what do I do?
Posted on 11/22/2008 12:49:00 PM by Anonymous
Please advise: A child is 3 yrs. The father paid non court ordered support for the lst 1 1/2 yrs and was then incarcerated for the next 1 1/2 yrs. He is now out and the mother has contacted child support enforcement to get child support officially ordrered. Will the father be responsible for back pay while he was incarcerated?
Posted on 11/20/2008 3:37:00 PM by Anonymous
Wow Im reading all this and I am a mother who is getting screwed. I pay child support to a Major in the army who makes 7,300 a month and I am unemployed. They are threatening to take my drivers license and put me in jail. I have been looking for a job but with the enconomy it has been really hard. Any advice?
Posted on 11/19/2008 8:31:00 AM by Anonymous
i just left mediation with a lawyer and was notified that even though i am granted 50% custody of our son. By law i still have to give her support and pay his insurance. She's a hairstyles(self-employed) and her income reported is 4 times less than my own.So with the child support guidelines i was ordered to pay. How is it that i have to pay her monthly to keep our son only 6 months out of a year.
Posted on 11/18/2008 5:56:00 PM by Anonymous
hi im a dad that is not married but has three little ones with my partner she is filling for child support an for my visitation rights what kind i do. like to now my options and as a parent what can i do
Posted on 11/12/2008 10:43:00 PM by Anonymous
hi i just went though a custody battle with my ex and we have joint custody. and now he is going for child support. i am a stay-at-home mom with my youngest daughter with someone else. is there any way he can get child support from me. please let me know asap.
Posted on 11/11/2008 5:42:00 PM by Anonymous
I'm a father of two wonderful children. My daughter's mother is a good parent and lets me see her whenever I want to. My son's mother, on the other hand, is being very unreasonable. I try to see him, but she makes it impossible. I want to establish my rights as a good father. I don't make very much money but I try to very hard(within the law). What are my options?
Posted on 11/10/2008 5:29:00 PM by Anonymous
Am I still responsilble for child support if paternity test proves I am not the father?
Posted on 11/10/2008 3:47:00 PM by Anonymous
I have been in my daughters life since her day of conception... When she was about 6 me and her mother went seperate ways... The whole time I was there I supported her and the baby... Upon moving I found out that the whole time we lived together she was collecting child support telling the county that i wasn't in my daughters life... Since i never knew of the claim, the interest compiled to the point where they shut down 2 of my bank accounts and snatched every income tax return and goverment funds I was allowed... Now I owe close to 50,000 dollars for back pay when I have been there since day 1... I need to know what my options are? The county judge totally believes her false testimony leaving me in the cold to fend for myself...
Posted on 11/10/2008 12:38:00 PM by Anonymous
Does child support for college tuition stop at 18?
Posted on 11/9/2008 11:15:00 PM by Anonymous
Is there a way for someone who owes child support to set to Child Support Enforcement in Missouri online every payday in the amount he is supposed to pay? If so, let me know where to send it and I can print out a receipt of payment and the date. That way it will get there much quicker I would think.
Posted on 11/6/2008 11:07:00 PM by Anonymous
I can see both sides of the situation, i am divorced i was the one who changed jobs for less money so that i could be there for my girls and it was my ex-wife who was cheating on me yet i was ordered to pay almost 60% of my paycheck, i don't mind cause it goes to my girls but she lied about how much she makes at her job. My ex is a hair stylist and she forgot to mention how much she makes in tips . Now my fiance is a very hard working person she never asked for anything from her son's father who was basicaly out of his life for five years comes back into town and gets to see his son more than she does and trying to get child support has been difficult. I don't understand why the court system doesn't look at each case differently, it seems the dads who want to take care of their children get screwed and the dads who do not deserve their children get all these rights.
Posted on 11/4/2008 9:15:00 AM by Anonymous
I understand that a child should ,be supported by both parents, but when only one parent is getting the shaft I don't thnk it is fare. You pay your child support and because the mother of your child wants to build a new house she decides she does not want to pay for insurance anymore, you now have to, tell me were this is rite. I raised my child to be responsible and they do take care of their children, but it makes it hard when you can not get your head above water when someone aways wants a hand out. I think that the rate of pay that is given to pay chid support should not be more than what you make in a 40 hour week and not basted on your net pay. No one is guaranteed over time. But, yet if your pay goes down it takes 6 months for the court to change any think not counting lawyer fees. This is another subject, what really upsets me is that the courts keep giving some of these mother there children back ,after being pulled over with drugs and high on them and the child has them all over her, she has been over dosed twice and they still give them back.Tell me were the justice is in that. I and my husband raised 7 children and took care of one that lived with my mother on a forth of what some of these high class dope addict gets for one and I'm not saying all of them are dope addicts. But, one thing for sure someone is getting screwed and it's not always the woman in this world.
Posted on 11/4/2008 7:01:00 AM by Anonymous
I see both sides of this situation.(child support) When a man loses his job, there are to many actions taken with this issue. For instance; drivers license suspended, warrant for arrest, and then of course we all know what comes next jail time. I find it ridiculous, because how is a devoted man, well trying to be devoted man(if someone will let him be the man -father he wants to be) trying to get back on his feet and do the right thing suppose to submit payment with these kind of actions. It's really hard for men. I will have to say i don't feel for all men, just the ones that really want to be in their child's life. Now, women why can't some of you losin up a little.
Especially when you know the man want to be there (or try) emotionally, physically, and financially but you won't give him a shot. These kind of situations are not about you there about your CHILDREN ONLY!!!!!!
Some women use this (child support)-a benefit to the extreme. If you really think about it you are part of the reason your going through this mess. My favorite saying "You made the bed now lye in it"
Now men, If you have children you know the best thing to do is be there for them no matter what the circumstances are, even if you can't stand the lady your with , the situation your in or the ex-girl, but It's the children that take the down fall for your action. Now is that FAIR???
Believe it or not that your children need both parents in their lives, even if the mother and father are not together.
Our children are suppose to have it better than we ever did. It's our job to make sure that their dreams come true. We are the only ones that can make the lives of our precious ones mean something in this world.
I am done !
liln
Posted on 10/30/2008 11:06:00 PM by Anonymous
Ok, so I am reading some of the comments and can't believe most of them so I had to comment. My wife cheated on me, and now I only get to see my kids every other week. I can not get full custody because there is no neglect on her part but now I am going to be forced to pay child support because she lost her job because she screwed around and got canned.
Posted on 10/30/2008 3:19:00 PM by Anonymous
my ex is past due over 11,000.00 .How do I get this money and interest?
Posted on 10/30/2008 8:24:00 AM by Anonymous
i dont understand why some of you or any of you are comeplaining i am raising four kind on my own the oder three i get little to nothin and the fourth one i dont get anythin for his passed and i were not married and his dads family refuses to help me in anyway some of you ought to feel prevlaged to get anything cause the are alot of kids doing with out.
Posted on 10/29/2008 1:55:00 PM by Anonymous
they should make the fathers take care of their children even if they are not living in the home with them, because it's so easy to make them but not to take responsibility. Just because you get divorce or seperated does not mean that you get seperated or waived from that child you made. The only one that's stuck with the children and the children's bills are the mothers, they pay for all the expenses and the father that is stuck paying fifty dollars a week thinks he has it hard because they're taking two hundred dollars a month from his pay check lets see them paying all the childs bills.
Posted on 10/27/2008 10:34:00 PM by Anonymous
I'M a mother of 2 girls.I live in NY. Their father didn't do his visitation like he was suppose to. I only received 40.00 a week for the both of them. how far do you think that goes. I got stuck with all medical bills also everything they needed I had to get for them. Now my youngest that is 18 moved out.her father conned her in moving in with him. then they took me to court for child support. I got stuck paying 60.00 a week. Now she is in collage. The money was going in to an account for her, but her father stolen 600.00 from the account to take his girlfriends nephew to Florida and settle him in his collage.but didn't even take his own daughter to her collage and get her settled in. That is a real loser of a father. Now she knows how much of a jerk his is. I think when they turn 18 no one should have to pay child support. The kids should learn to be adults and get a job.
Posted on 10/27/2008 7:52:00 PM by Anonymous
if fathers could get a little help, maybe more fathers would be involved with their children, the system makes it so hard on fathers that they just give up
Posted on 10/27/2008 4:09:00 PM by Anonymous
I feel for men. U pic women that dont work and now u r stuck paying all or most of your wages n suport.. Too much wages come out and force some men not to pay cause they can't support 2 households. Make adjust to the amount taken out then maybe more men would step up. We n a depression. Ny
Posted on 10/27/2008 4:03:00 PM by Anonymous
all fathers aren't deadbeat dads, but the court system seems to treat them all the same way. why not check out some of the moms, they are a few of those that are deadbeats, like the ones that have been married 3 times, has 3 kids and they all have different dads and she wasn't even married to the oldest childs father. what kind of mom is that???????????but the court still is on her side!!!!!!!!!!
Posted on 10/27/2008 4:00:00 PM by Anonymous
why can a mom call the father and ask him to pick up the girls and when she finds out that he wanted to get notification from the girls progress in school, she calls and threatens to call the police and report him for having the girls when he wasn't suppose to. he only wants to be involved with his girls. the system isn't fair to fathers.
Posted on 10/27/2008 3:48:00 PM by Anonymous
my daughter's father thinks his only job is to pay support she is now 14 years old and has not had steady visitation since she was 4 years old when will people understand the emotional damage that they cause has alot to do with why their children grow up and don't have a desire to deal with them.
Posted on 10/27/2008 11:40:00 AM by Anonymous
why do the father have to still pay child support when child is 18 an finished school
Posted on 10/27/2008 7:46:00 AM by Anonymous
MY SON IN LAW WHO MAKES VERY GOOD MONEY DOES NOT BOTHER TO SEND HIS MOTHER AND ME MONEY TO HELP US RAISE HIS DAUGHTER AND SEND HER TO DAY CARE AND FEED & CLOTH HER. WE LIVE IN NY STATE THE MOTHER DOENS'T WORK CAN WE GO AFTER HIM FOR SUPPORT EVEN IF WE DO NOT HAVE LEGAL CUSTODY-THEY JUST LEFT HER HERE SINCE MAY -HE LIVES IN SOUTH CAROLINA AND WE DO NOT KNOW WHERE THE MOM LIVES
Posted on 10/26/2008 8:18:00 PM by Anonymous
I am sorry and very disappoint in life and maybe not in my self.
This is not an accidents.
I'm making a statements like that you know on what I say holds the truth because , I just can't understand anything.
At home I just have a regular answering machine none of that Verizon stuff.
Just old school answering machine.
So I'm hearing the message and is my daughters mother,
telling me if i'm going to my daughters babyshower??
That's what was left on my answering machine.
You know my daughter is only 16 years old.
I'm 37 and now i have to be a Grandfather.
Because she/my ex has this game and she is married and all with 2 more kid's ( girl's )............But i don't have anything or nothing to do with her cause of living.
She has me paying childsupport for 13 years , 13 years for no reason.
But this take's the cake.
Now what I have to continue paying childsupport for a baby??? with a baby!!!
I need some real feedback on this.
Thank you.
Posted on 10/26/2008 10:21:00 AM by Anonymous
I think it sucks the father that is paying child support. and does not work in a shop or plant and has to pay over 50% of what he makes then later on finds out one of the kids is not is, but have to pay any way because he sing the birth cit, and he was married to her
Posted on 10/23/2008 7:43:00 AM by Anonymous
I think the way child support is it sucks for the fathers. I'm a divorce mother of 5. I get my money. But the father that have never married the mother,don't get visitation rights. unless he takes her to court. How is the father to get address to take to court. How many have the money to take the mother to court to get rights. The mother always gets help with money. I think if they give her money than the father should get just as much rights as the mother on paper.
Posted on 10/22/2008 8:24:00 PM by Anonymous
I have a son who is now 19+ lives in B.C. I live in Ontario. Never married to mother. I'm told son is taking a carpentry course -is working full time and getting paid wages. Mother says this is an "apprentiship" course. I have no way of verifying this - as mother refuses to let me know where son is taking this course and son has not communicated with me since 1996 - nor have I seen him - no phone calls, no letters and even before that while I was living in B.C. I can count on one hand when I've ever seen or talked to him. The mother now reports through the Family Service Centre of B.C. that this apprentiship will last for another 3 years - I find that very hard to believe as I am not even sure my son is still living with his mother. My son will be 20 in January 2009. I don't feel I should be paying "child support" to a grown independent person who will not even pick up the phone to say "hi" and tell me how he is doing. My attempts to contact him over the years by phone or by letter have been intercepted by the mother every time - she refuses to let him have any contact with me. However, she periodically contacts in a drunken rage in the middle of the night. I sincerely think I am being taken advantage of and that I would be quite within my rights to stop support payments - I could certainly use the dollars to provide my 2 children 13 & 15 with their needs. I can't afford a lawyer right now I was hoping there would be some kind of Self-Help Legal kit I could initiate myself. Can anyone help me?
Posted on 10/22/2008 3:41:00 PM by Anonymous
What are legit. uses of child support in NYS? What can and can't it be used for? Thank You!
Posted on 10/21/2008 11:55:00 PM by Anonymous
what is the statute of limitations on owed child support in indiana
Posted on 10/21/2008 5:30:00 PM by Anonymous
my wife left me & my son in july . she is seeing someone else & my son don'n want anything to do with her . while she seeing this other guy . we had an agreement on what she gave me aweek and she was paying it sense then she filed for a devorce and her lawyer said for her not to give me anything until after the devorce ' so now me & my son are strugling trying to make ends meet while she lives with her mom & pays no bills I was just wandering at what point does the court allow you to go back to . to allow you to collect back child support . Shouldn't she be responsable to. thanks.
Posted on 10/21/2008 3:45:00 PM by Anonymous
I am disappointed that the father can quit his job and can file for a modification so he lower his childsupport. He only worked there for 6 months and said he cant work for other people. I have had my job for 12yrs and made adjustments to make sure I support our son from the day he was conceived. I dont live out of my means and the support that came was only for our child NOT ME! Why is it that his father thinks this is ok? I know everyone out there cant tell there landlord, mortgage company, child care provider or the electric company, I quit my job so I am not going to pay you. My childs education and health are the most important, childrens lives should be thought of first dispite any issues the parents have with each other.
Posted on 10/21/2008 7:01:00 AM by Anonymous
I love much children, just didn't like the way my wife evolved. I am willing to support them all their life, with more than just money. I make 150000 a year, How much should I have to pay in support? What are the laws with spousal support?
Posted on 10/20/2008 10:58:00 PM by Anonymous
MY GIRLFRIEND LIVED WITH ME &HAD 2 KIDS IM NOT EVEN SURE ARE MINE NOW . I AM DISABLED & DRAW SOCIAL SECURITYAND SHES ALREADY DRAWN 9,000DOLLARS IN BACK CHILD SUPPORT WHILE THEY WERE LIVING WITH ME! THEN SHE MOVED OFF BUT THEYVE BEEN DRAWING OFF MY S.SECURITY SINCE THEY WERE BORN!AND HAVE ALWAYS HAD INSURANCE THROUGH ME.BUT NOW SHES TAKING ME BACK TO COURT FOR BACK CHILD SUPPORT & PRESENT& INSURANCE.WHAT DO I DO? I CAN BARELY EAT NOW!
Posted on 10/20/2008 3:56:00 PM by Anonymous
NEED TO KNOW ABOUT PAST PAID CHILD SUPPORT BY TERRY M. TIPPS THROUGH SOCIAL SECURITY DISABILITY PRESENT AND PAST
Posted on 10/20/2008 3:18:00 PM by Anonymous
I believe that before a child is conceieved both parties should want a child together and rear it up together and put their own needs aside until the child is reared.Because half of what going on around is children has no guidance or secureity.A child needs 2 parents that cares.Love I don't know if anyone knows what that means anymore.
Posted on 10/20/2008 2:44:00 PM by Anonymous
After my wife and I sepperated I visited my children for about five months. Then my wife found a boyfriend and up and moved between my visits. None of her family would tell me where they had moved too. Also I knew she would right away get on welfare so I went to the State welfare department and asked her case worker where my children were. I was denied this information with no cause. For the past sixteen years I have not seen my children but the state which denied me the whereabouts of my children want me to pay what they are calling child support but is actually an attempt to collect the welfare money payed to my ex. Nebraska has a Self Sufficency Program that has been in place sense 1995 but they did not make my ex take part in this program. She even defruaded the government twice while we were together by recieving welfare when I was paying all the bills. Instead of the welfare department stoping the checks, theycontinued to pay her monthly and deducted an amount for the checks she was not suppose to have been getting. But the checks they made deductions from she also was not suppose to be getting. I am disabled and am not even paid enough to bring me above the poverty level but they insist I have to pay anyway. I am being told pretty much that even if I have to live on the streets that I must still pay. This is not right or fair to me because of being deprived the right to be a part of my childrens and them a part of my life for the past sixteen years.
Posted on 10/13/2008 11:29:00 AM by Anonymous
What's justice and what kind of initiative or motivation for fathers when fathers are provided custody and care for their children while the deadbeat mother gets $25000.00 in child support arrears thrown out because the legal system can't provide a certified copy of child support orders.
Either the system is corrupt or thet must do this to every parent. What is it people?
Posted on 10/9/2008 8:13:00 PM by Anonymous
My daughter, who was with her boyfriend for 16 years, has split up with him after having 3 children, when she learned he has been living with and paying another womans rent and bills for the past 4 months. Now she is living with myself and her dad(whom are both on disability) with her 3 children, 12,9 and 5 years old, and the father is from a multi-million dollar family, and we have been trying to go thru the process of getting support for his children. We have found out that from his $6000/month trust fund, he will be paying $1446/month for child support. Not per child, but for all three. We are thankful to eventually get something, but what mother with 3 children can pay rent, food and survive on that ?
Posted on 10/8/2008 2:46:00 AM by Anonymous
What i find hard to believe is that there are women out there that are still not being responsible for their actions. Having a child to tie down a man is not the way to go about it and having a child to JUST receive those extra dollars . A child is a huge responsibility why can't they see that their not being fair bringing that child to the world for money. Another thing I don't agree or rather say is very wrong is for a woman to have a child and now seeking child support WHY did she get pregnant to begin with? Be responsible a man will never say NO to a woman who is enticing him to these wrong actions.
Sorry! women but let's be more wiser and think twice before getting pregnant out of wed lock. OH!! there is a father but he won't know he is a father until months after the child is born......and someone is claiming child support!!! how nice!
Posted on 9/26/2008 11:24:00 PM by Anonymous
I defenilty agree with the fact that there something that needs to be done in congress. If the mother only wants the money and won't allowed the father to see their child than why should the mom getting any money. NO CHILD NO MONEY. Its not just fair to the mothers but the fathers too especially when mothers chose to not to allow their child to see their father.
Posted on 9/25/2008 10:25:00 PM by Anonymous
My fiance and I have taken on raising our niece and nephew because one parent was unfit and the other abandoned them. We aren't recieving any benifits from either one, and the DCF and CSE aren't really doing anything to find find their father who is now living in Delaware. I have info on how to find him but no one to listen. Can someone help us. PLEASE contact us @ 386-341-2124 or 386-366-3408 Thank You Allison & John
Posted on 9/8/2008 10:28:00 PM by Anonymous
Most of these women who are getting pregnant are just getting pregnant for the child support. I think ot is highly unfair to the men. If a woman does not let the father see the child then they should not see the money either. That's why I am writing Congress to get something done about this. By the way I am a woman and I see my friends doing this to men , which is wrong. I know God would not appreciate this. So all of you fake christians out there talking about God and doing this type of stunt to human beings it will come back by 10's.
Posted on 9/8/2008 6:26:00 PM by Anonymous
I am a mother that is owed child support and has not received a penny in 11 years. I am also married to someone that has been unfairly treated sent to jail and has been put on probation for 6 years. The DCSS has caused major hard ships on us and he went to join the Military to get the benefits and the pay so he could afford the payments and they denied his request to drop his probation. So I understand both sides of the situation and YES the rule and guidelines need to be fixed.
Posted on 9/5/2008 1:53:00 PM by Anonymous
You can get started by contacting the divison of family services and they will tell you what steps you need to follow and where you can get more information
Posted on 9/4/2008 7:46:00 PM by Anonymous
I have 3 children and the Department has always been fair and I have always recieved my child support. My children are now grown and my last one is off to college at the end of the month. I have to thank the Department for the help over the years and also thank my ex husband for being the guy to own up to paying what he was ordered.. I am sorry for the other single moms that have had to struggle to recieve there support and remember there is a reason for everything.... most men want to do the right thing.
Posted on 8/5/2008 8:39:00 PM by Anonymous
Being a mother myself who does not get any help whatsoever from my kids loser father, I am going to school to better myself so that I do not need help from anyone. I have a husband who does work and pays his child support for his other children while taking care of me and my children and our daughter. Not that they considered all of the circumstances when the court decided to take a large portion of money every month. So whoever wrote that I applaud you. Women take charge of your own lives, make something of yourself so that you do not have to depend on child support!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted on 8/5/2008 12:16:00 PM by Anonymous
I know it's hard to raise a child/children by yourself (especially these days) but it took two people to have these kids (not just the dad) and if you ask me if half of you would stop whinning and get out and get a job and stop depending on child support from these guys then your life would probably be a lot simpler. Just take care of your kids, money isn't everything. You apparently wanted to have a baby too....
Posted on 7/29/2008 3:12:00 PM by Anonymous
i been divorced for 5yrs.My X was suppose to pay child supporte for his two kids.By court order he was not able to visit with the kids unless suppervised but he did not want to pay to see them so he hasnt.But yet he has not payed child support for a 1 1/2 and i dont know what to do i have always taken care of my kids on my own without anyones help.Mom starting to struggle after so many years.
Posted on 7/28/2008 10:00:00 PM by Anonymous
why go after the father if you have an agreement voluntary to pay an amoint that is higher than the actual amount the child supoort enforcement will collect. he is still taking care of his own by paying.
Posted on 7/28/2008 7:32:00 PM by Anonymous
What I meant was, exactly how soon do child support payments usually begin after paternity has been established? Even after the court ordered the noncustodial parent to not have any contact with the custodial parent and child, could the noncustodial parent still try to get partial custody?
Posted on 7/27/2008 7:49:00 PM by Anonymous
my question is this why does they go after the fathers to pay child support? i have seen cases where the mother is out spending the childsupport at clubs or bars. why not go after the mothers who have to pay child support as well. it takes two to make a child as well as it does to raise one. these days we have babies having babies, one reason/excuse for the daugther to get out or away from home.
Posted on 7/26/2008 3:49:00 PM by Anonymous
Question... My daughter is due to graduate and turn 18 in 2008... My child spt agreement states child spt is paid until child turns 18, marries or dies. I don't use this child spt, it goes into an account and used for her needs only. But what I need to know is, if she goes to college full time, (and she will), could child spt be extended to age 21? Reason I ask is, it will be almost impossible for her to work and support herself and go to college full time and I know he will not help her and it will be left to me to do... alone...
Posted on 7/17/2008 7:41:00 PM by Anonymous
I am in a situation where family violence is a factor. The children would love to see their father but he can not pick them up. He refuses to ask his family for assistance to pick the children up and all he tells the kids is he can't come to my house to get them. He never thought about the way it would affect the children when he went to prison for family violence. Now he tells the children it is my fault he can't see them therefore he does not want to pay. It is his choice to see them and his choice to ask someone to pick them up. I am at this time loosing time from work going to court for the child support to be adjusted and he is arguing that he can not pay the amount set because of his personal loans he has with his family. The kids are not at fault of him having these debts. But yet they suffer from it. Now that is not FAIR!!!!!
Posted on 7/17/2008 12:33:00 PM by Anonymous
i have a 9 yrs old girl,i had never been married with her dad ,we live in palatine ill,and i need to get a child suport for her a.s.a.p. What is the first step to do
Posted on 7/8/2008 10:13:00 PM by Anonymous
When a divorce is final and child support is in the divorce. Will it go up every 3yrs or will it stay the same.What I mean if it is set at $200 will it stay like that till that child turns 18 or will it go up every 3yrs?
Posted on 7/4/2008 1:14:00 PM by Anonymous
my boyfriend left his wife of 20 yrs 9 months ago to live with me. She has a docutmented (been in the mental ward twice in last year & her dads mental illness has been well established for a long time) mental problems , altho a real, thorough diagnosis has not been made. Anway, she wants $300 a week from my boyfreind. Last year he grossed $75,000.00. and she made about $150.00/week for less than half the year. My question is: we'de all like to come to an agreement to settle OUT of court, but we are not sure it will be viable and he will get credit for teh money he gives her. She took all their money out of the joint checking account and he gave her $5000 of his tax monies w/n last three months and she is frugal, yet wants more money. So, If we draw up a document agreeing that is how much he will pay, Is it legal and binding and will any judge take that into consideration when the time comes to divorce?
Posted on 6/30/2008 10:56:00 AM by Anonymous
A friend divorced 5 yrs ago, he pays an extra 150 dollars for extra curricular activities and health care, the child does not and has not in the past five yrs been in any extra activities, the mother and father both have health care through work to cover and medications that are not paid for. Does he have to pay for this, or can he get a variation of a court order to change this. He has also since remarried and is financially strapped and has know quams about paying the amount in the child support guidlines, please advise.
Posted on 6/17/2008 1:38:00 PM by Anonymous