Child Support

I have been the wife of a man paying his child support regularly for the past 10 years. He pays a hefty sum, and she is always trying for more. We even had to pay spousal support while she was already remarried. Figure that one out. The oldest boy is 19 1/2, and has been out of school that long too. Now he is going back to school and she wants her child support back. How long are you supposed to pay. If he goes to school again in 5 years, do we start paying again or is there a point where he is supposed to be independant. While he was out of school for the year and a half he worked the entire time and she never asked for any rent at that point...so why now........I say because there is no laws protecting dads...they are not all dead beat dads, they are also people trying to survive the economy. But dad always looses...he rarely has custody of his kids, he is always acused of being a dead beat dad if he misses a payment because he had no work that month. Where is dads fairness.

I recieve papers from the San francisco Dept of Child Support, I am not giving any information on this case just copies of the hearing. I wish someone will let me know. Thank You, Carolyn Cafferata

I'm separated for tthe past two years. I have a teenage daughter age 15. I'm working with a minimum salary which isnt enough to sustain our daily living. I do part time job for extra income just to survive. I'm seekin help to find a way for child support from my husband for my teeage daughter which he never supported us even we were living together before.

I'M THE FATHER (NONCUSTODIAL PARENT) OF TWO WONDERFUL CHILDREN. I HAVE BEEN PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR OVER THREE YEARS IN THE INTERIM I LOST MY ORIGINAL HIGH PAYING JOB BUT HAVE ALWAYS COVERED THEIR HEALTH INSURANCE. I HAVE TRIED TO GET MY CHILD SUPPORT MODIFIED IN ACCORDANCE WITH MY NEW LOWER PAYING JOB BUT EACH TIME I HAVE GONE TO SUCH PROCEEDING MY MODIFICATION GETS DENIED. IF I MAKE 1800 IN A MONTH 900 IS GOING TO CHILD SUPPORT. THE MOTHER MAKES AT LEAST 2100 A MONTH. LEAVING ME WITH 800 A MONTH TO GET TO WORK EAT ETC......... I SEE MY CHILDREN 2 TO 3 TIMES A WEEK. I JUST SAY THIS SYSTEM IS UNFAIR TO THOSE OF US THAT WANT TO DO THE RIGHT THING. I'M BROKE AND AT MY WITS END DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.

when a child reaches a cretian age, can the payer of the child suport request that the money be placed in an account for the child so that they can get it as they need it.

I am raising a daughter who has an intellectal disability, Mild Cerebral Palsy, Seizures, Panhypopituitarism, Glucocortoid Deficiency, Growth hormone deficiency. Her dad does nothing for her except pay child support. He has another daughter who is perfectly healthy and as a matter of fact her and her mother lives in the same apartment complex buliding and he comes and picks her up on the weekends, gives her money, plus on top of that he pays child support on her too. He has come and picked up the other daughter when my daughter was out there playing with her friends. All he did was wave at her. No hello how are you doing? It had really had upset her but she really did not show any emotions. I could really tell that it did by the way she was acting. When we went through our divorce he had tried to get custody of her and he has not really been there for her. For all the single mothers out there who is raising a child on their own with or without the father in their life I do know what ya'll are going through.

I am A mother of two and I never got one penny of childsupport. I work hard as a single mom. And I figure if they don't want to be in the child's life or pay that's on them. I see way to many moms living off their ex. Doesn't give him respect for actually paying. Just like fathers that support the mother when together and yet she wins the kids. Justice isn't fair.

Forgot to say for my comment below...his bills are over 1000 and he only gets 640 a month. His ex gf (baby's mom) makes 4000 a month and still gets 664 from him a month. She has a past history of crack drug use, bad driving record, and just got a domestic violence charge. My boyfriend has no record or ever been to jail. Can we do anything?

i was wondering if it was true that a noncustodial parent did not have to pay child support as long as he can prove that he is paying for health insurance for his children?

for the grand mother with social security payments for grand daughter if you have legal gaurdianship and she lives with you you are entiled to those benifits for ur grand daughter its called representive payee and she has to be living with the person who recieves them that is you go apply and turn the father in it is not his money it is to upkeep the child and for the child the account is in there name with u as over seeing and accounting for what is spent and what u donot need to meet basic needs is to be put into an account for them until 18 if he is spending her money at the end of yr he has to fill out a form saying what on so he is commiting fraud go down talk to them or visit social security.gov for info but go report it if he was married to the mother for 10 yrs he gets money but the kids money is theirs and if hes not spending it on her or saving it for her and living with him he cannot collect. I know I am a re payee and if I miss handle the money my kid can sue me at 18 and send me to jail. YOU HAVE BEEN VERY MISS INFORMED get a rep payee booklet from ur social security office she may even be entileted to benifts from u as leagal gaurdien depending on ur age. PLEASE MAKE AN APPOINTMENT do not wait its hers legal and morally blessings

there is no CAP on what you pay for childsupport. It doesn't matter what you make.. it is based on your income and number of kids.. it is less if you can document (over night visits) per month with you. other than that your screwed.. you will have to pay more if you make more.. stay at your job.. ask for a drop in hours.. go to your doctor tell them your having a nervous breakdown and that you want a doctors note to work less. go to court get your settlement than go back to your regular working hours.. even if your ex finds out about your "scam" they cant take you back for modification for 2 years.I know been there done it and it worked.

So, I just wanted to say, child support has gone productively nowhere. I have a 4 year old son who i've raised by myself since birth. I'm 23 yeas old and a responsible hard working mom. I do everything for my litle boy and his father has done nothing. He like many, moves constanlty, gets cash jobs, has more children and takes care of them but ignores his first born! Is 235 a month that difficult? And i wanna say the thing that pisses me off the most is that the men or women that don't pay get their L's taken away or get put in jail, woopty! So we still don't get paid or now they can't get to a job! They still drive! They still don't do a damn thing for us, so rethink the system, these people need to be FORCED TO WORK!!! I can't do this by myself anymore the economy has taken me as low as poverty level. Hes over 8 grand behind and we have to suffer because of it? Isn't there another method to recieve some money ?Anything is better than nothing!

How do I find our if someone is wanted for Child Support payments in Colarado. She is running from the law in different states, I believe. Thanks.

I don't see the Child Support Calculator. Does anyone know where one is for the state of Washington? One that you enter the appropriate information and it calculates it for you. My Boss has seen it by a friend and did not get the url. But she seen it with her own eyes! Thanks, I HATE calculating this stuff, I think this whole process nowadays is creepy for lack of a better word. Sorry if this is not in the right forum. But Calculator link for CS brought me here!

Hello, Child support has come a long way but my story hasnt changed at all. My exhusband was ordered to pay child support in the 80s. My children are grown and he still owes me 43,500.00. He has gotten away with having more children and even has rights to children that are not his. They have only taken his income tax one year and that was a small portion. He has moved many times over the years and has done everything in his power not to pay. His wife does not live with him so she can get section 8 from the goverment. I raised my children alone on a very small income and never took anything from the goverment. If you plan on getting support from anyone that is like this you will have to spend most of your free time fighting. They have even taken his driving licence away but he still drives in every other state. He is now working in SC for a major company, still no support. Him and his wife have spend years doing this. There should be a national system that can be used and fast before people like this find another loop hole. What ever my exhusband and his wife have done it has worked for them.

My name is ann and i have a 3 year old daughter who doesnt even know her father because he is too busy with his life in another state to notice her. he hasnt done anything for her since she was 2 months old and says he wants a dna test after all this time and he signed her birth certificate. i need help getting child support because raising a 3 year old us not easy by myself.

to the guy who's ex wants 7500.00 a month for your guys 3 kids, i feel for you. all i can say is get a good lawyer . it sucks, but it's all about money..do you blame her if she does not go back to work $60k compared to you giving her $90K

As a proffesional who makes $400K gross income a year, Is there a cap to the child support I will need to pay. My soon to be ex who has an earning protential of $60K refuses to go back to work and wants to simply live off of my child support thereby asking for $7500.mo for 3 children under the age of 3.

megan houser.. if your over 14 you can request a court date.. go to your local town hall or city court system and ask the clerk for a change in parental living choices. You can be assigned free legal help threw the town state you live in.. you need to fill in the form.. have your mom there on your court date.. and tell the judge the reasons why 1. you want to live with your mom.2. how would living with your mom benefit you eg tell the court that it may be closer to school.. maby your mom has a bigger house for you.. maby your mom is closer to your friends, maby your mom is home more to help you with school and social.. that is what they want to hear..3. reasons why you no longer want to live with your dad (and it cant be because you dont like his rules) you must state that maby at this time in your life you think that your mom would be best to deal with a girl than your dad for example. Before your court date,, I recommend that you have your mom take you to a certified counceller or therapist so you can have documentation from them also that you want to be with your mom and wether they also recommend it.

the child that i have, i am his guardian of, his mother is in the army and,she do not pay child support for him at all

I am a single mother of four children. I was with my x-husband for eleven and a half years. He decided on June 11,2007 that he was leaving me and his children for a eighteen year old girl. Then the next thing I know he is with what was suppossed to be my best friend. Needless to say when my x and I separated, I had been doing everything for this woman. I provided her and her three children a place to live and charged them nothing to stay with our family. Now he has married her and he does for her three children, where he hardly ever does anything for his blood children. He also had his place of employment make a false paper saying that he only makes eight twenty-five and hour. He was making anywhere from fifteen to twenty-four dollars an hour when we separated. I have check stubs to prove it from when we were together. The hearing officer that handled our case saw his check stubs, but because he haad a lawyer and I didn't, the paper passed. He is entitled to have his children every other weekend, and on most holidays and eve's. My children come home crying telling me how their dad lets them be mistreated when they are there, and he does nothing about it. I thought that the state was there for the benefit of the children, but it looks as though I was wrong. How can this man keep getting away with this? How does the state not know the truth of what he makes in order to see to it that his children get the amount they trully deserve. This man has even went as far as to have CONTEMPT OF COURT CHARGES served on me, by saying that I had took the children and moved as well as changed my number. The sad thing is that I had never went anywhere. I have been in the same place since I moved after our seperation. Him on the other hand has done moved four different times. I want my children to enjoy their time with their dad, but they don't. He let's his wifes children mistreat his biological children. It has done gotten so bad that they don't want to go there anymore. I went through the state for the child suppport thinking it would help my children receive their money as they should. I have been fighting with this man sice 2007, and still hardly any change. How does this man keep on getting away with this.

to the father of two and splitting up... the courts look at who has the kids the most out of the year.. and not days.. they look at OVERNIGHTS... I have been threw this before.. and trust me.. keep track of it.. most states don't allow you to get a divorce for a year anyway.. so outsmart the other in the mean time and get the kids overnight as much as you can during that time. when it comes time for the divorce.. and everything gets decided you can have a callendar book and state out of each month the exact days you had them... for example April you had them 11 days and name the exact days you had them then do May and the same.. Also keep track of all receipts during that year of things you purchaced for them shoes clothes school items EVERYTHING.. the more receipts and paper trails you have to prove without a reasonable doubt in court will grant you better judgement. Anyway bottom line ... the parent with the kids the most overnights will be the parent receiving the childsupport regardless if you make the exact same amount of money... The only think that can alter the decision is the living arrangements, be sure the kids have their own rooms, you can continue without interuption their school their friends and social arrangements.. The parent that disrupts that the most will be the parent less likely to have the kids so keep things on an even keel for the kids.. State to the judge the benefits the kids have at your house vs the other house.. eg close to school or arrangements you have for them... also close to friends.. size of your house.. pets they might have,, etc.. the parent that doesn't add much change to the childrens "NORMAL " lifestyle will be rewarded better than a parent that wants to change alot of the kids "Normal" lifestyle.. And also start taking the kids to therapy when you have them.. the court looks in favor that you care enough to get them someone to talk to to ease them threw questions they have and feelings they have about mom and dad splitting up.. Good luck

all i can say is something in your family must be F***D up to have your kids in foster care and your wondering if you can get it stopped.. first you have to come to reality on why they are there in the first place. If they were there because of inappropriate living conditions or poor parents.. than that needs to be resolved before you have a leg to stand on. Your house or apartment has to have a seperate bedroom for each child and you. Even two girls can not share the same room. Once that is straight.. and you are straight.. you have to prove everything so if you were a poor parent charges etc.. you need to go to any classes offered in your town to prove you are working on things and prove how well you are doing. If you do not get a job.. you can not get your kids if you do not have a job.. and no night jobs.. you have to be there for your kids expecially at night... Once you have proof of all your ducks in a row.. then make a court date at your local court house.. and get your kids back.. dss will meet in court or a representitve from there... and you can prove your case base on all the evidence you have... Get a psych. evaluation on your own prior to getting your kids back to prove you are mentally stable to properly be the parent of kids.

I have custody of 2 teenage kids. My son is almost 18 and our order stated that child support would end when he becomes 18. He is planning to go to college.. can I get child support extended until he is 21. the court gave me sole custody of my 2 kids because the father didn't want them. He was given reasonable visitation and he doesn't even call or visit and he lives a mile away.. based on that I would like to get help for college. He mails the kids birthday cards, does not call them, and when they try it never works out, he always is busy.. my daughter asked him for her birthday present 2 weeks early and he told her he wasn't a bank... terrable.. can anyone let me know if or how i can get the support extended.. my son is not capible yet of paying for everything.. and I do not make enough to help much..

my wife left 3 yrs ago for an old boyfriend and ended up in wisconsin. I was served with paternity papers she had a child with this guy and I had to prove paternity as well as him. the childs just a yr old I havent seen her in 3yrs did not know where she was. Do i have to pay child support on this child?

I am a father who is paying child support on four different cases for Morrison County Minnesota and I live in Iowa. My payments that I make are not going to the cases they are meant to go to. They are taking money from one child and putting it on the other children of mine and saying I am not making my payments either in full or not at all. Now they have taken my DL away because of this and have thrown me in jail before and am trying to put me in jail again for failure to pay child support. Does anyone have any idea what I can do to correct this.

How do I cope & help my kids thru divorce. thomas.a.j@netzero.com

some men just think they can do it their self and not let there wife have any say so in anything .

i forgot if any body have any advise my email is martybowden@yahoo.com

Attention All. I sent you some vital information about the dos and don'ts, but was message was apparently blocked because someone doesnt want you knowing the truth. hmmmmmm

if child support took my kids father income tax why are escrow still holding it he knows how much he owes and he did not request for the hearing he though that i already receive the kids money an i haven't 30-45 days has past is they trying to wait until next year when the 180 days is up i don't think it is fare some people need that payment to support the kids will some body please answer that

do those Attorney General Reps get a commission on getting more money from you? I going thru a divorce and it seems they care more about the money than my sons well being or me and my wifes curent relationship we have going. so much for cooperation. If I were you I would stick it out and have a fling on the side and I'm speaking to both the man and woman.

need paperwork for motion on child support

More than likely the non custodial parent will still have to pay because they use the excuse "the custodial parent still maintains a house". I tried to argue the point that I shouldn't have to pay support when the kids are with me during summer vacation. In some states, that may be the ruling. However, the state of Texas does not recognize such a thing because they claim the custodial parent still has household expenses to maintain. Again, it's more about the money they get credit for collecting; not about the kids!

ATTENTION ALL! Here's what I know to be true and hopefully it will get posted and answer some of your questions. 1. It doesn't matter what you have to pay in child support when it comes to visitation. The states keep them separate for a reason. The state is more concerned about that a parent’s rights to see their child and they use our kids as an excuse to get it. For those of you who don't know, each state receives federal funding for every dollar they collect from non custodial parents. When it comes to visitation, they “will not” use up their resources (money) to enforce a court order that does not benefit them financially. That's why they direct non custodial parents to hire an attorney of their own. 2. The next thing to discuss is the use of child support money. As a non custodial parent who pays $1,200.00 a month for one child, I get pretty upset knowing that my daughter only sees a portion of that. In most states, the family law is probably similar to that of Texas. In the law, it says that child support is "presumed" to be used in the interests of the children. It's worded that way to satisfy the paying party, even though in some cases (such as mine) that's purely fictitious. Similar to the visitation issue, the state will not use its resources to ensure the money is being spent on the children. So, the word "presumed" implies that it is. To be fair, many custodial parents barely get enough to provide for their kids. 3. The question is often asked “how long should a person pay child support?” The usual answer is 18 or until the child finishes high school; whichever comes later. If the child is 18 and drops out of school, then payments should stop as soon as the non custodial parent files a case and a judge cancels the order. Here's the catch: Because the states are so reliant on money from the non custodial parent, they will drag their feet pushing it through court. While a hearing is pending, the current amount will continue as if the child were still in school. When it comes to college, usually child support will only continue if that’s agreed upon in the initial divorce. Children are required to attend school, or until they reach adulthood. Just like private school and going to college is a choice. Therefore, unless parents agree to it upfront, the non custodial parent should not be made to pay additional support. Unfortunately (but true), some parents will keep intentionally hold their kids back in school in hopes of extending child support payments another year. Of course, the states don’t care because they too benefit from additional payments. Sorry to say, but there isn’t always an incentive for the kids to do well when custodial parents put more emphasis on money than education. 4. When it comes to making changes to an existing order such as an increase in child support payments, the custodial parent has to file a claim with the local office. In some states such as Texas, a modification can take place every three years. That means there has to be cause for the increase such as an increase in the non custodial parent’s income. However, a non custodial parent can file for a decrease in the same manner if their income was also reduced. Of course, states do not like to reduce any amount because that impacts their federal funding. 5. Each state uses a formula to determine the amount a person should pay. In Texas, they will say is 20% of the non-custodial parent’s average net income. However, it’s much more complex than that. For instance, they usually ask for the last two years income statements such as pay stubs and tax forms. The reason they do this is to determine which calculation brings more money through their system. For instance, if a person made more money in the prior year, they will factor that into the amount of child support. If a person made less the previous year, they will not consider that amount because it will reduce the amount they can take. Additionally, if a person gets a bonus or works any overtime, they will consider that as income too. Again, it all about how much money they can get from the non custodial parent. So, the formula they use allows them the flexibility to adjust the numbers in their favor. All they have to tell a judge was the amount is based on an “average” of their net earnings without specifying the duration. Again, the law does not say “last six months, year, or two years” for this very reason. 6. When a person fails to pay child support, he or she will eventually get caught. States have adopted a system that ties them together. If the Deadbeat plans on having a legitimate form of employment, that employer will automatically enter him or her into a nationwide system. That system will send a flag to the responsible state agency and wages will be garnished automatically. To do this, he employer is bound by law to send a withholding notice and there's nothing the non custodial parent can do to stop it. If that person is behind, the state will take any tax refund a person has coming until the amount is paid in full. I am not a fan of this entire system because it’s very biased against non custodial parents. My assumption is that these agencies employ an abundance of feminists who want nothing more than to see men fall to their knees. At least, that has been my experience with the state of Texas. In no way do I suggest people do not pay to support their children, but there has to be some equality in the system that encourages good parenting and the will to cooperate with each other. Unfortunately, the legal system has created a cash cow for themselves and I don’t expect it to ever change. The only publicity you hear in the media is about deadbeats who do not pay their fair share. But when it comes to the other side of the story, all agencies with a legal team assigned will block such information because they don’t want the general public to know what is really going on in this corrupt system. The only way to get people thinking is to stage a large public outcry. As of now, we all sit idle behind our computers and bitch about a system we’re not truly ready to stand up and fight. I only wish that enough people would come together and hold a public protest so the rest of the nation knows what really goes on within the very system they think does a good job. I would love to hear from any of you at beensolob4@yahoo.com

I am filing for divorce, my husband is an attorney and refuses to pay childsupport because he says I dont deserve it. He is threatening me to take my daughter away since he has all the money. He is verbally abusive and an alcoholic. I am afraid he will succeed since he does have money and can prolong the divorce and custody battle. Law enforcemnt wont help since we are married and this is a civil matter.. I am miserable and lost..

do I have to pay for my child if he is expecting a baby

Everything hinges on child custody, and the courts automatically give custody to the mothers unless they are deemed unfit, missing, or do not want custody. So right off the bat, the father has lost the case before it's even started. This is the unspoken truth in divorce cases. No wonder fathers can feel bitter - they never had a fair hearing in court to begin with. Once the mother has custody, the father has no real voice in choices involving the child - school, church, medical, etc. Courts can then easily enforce child support through wage garnishment, etc., but problems with visitation are more difficult and time-consuming to enforce, so the courts don't use much time for that purpose. Society encourages fathers to play a large role in their children's lives, but when a divorce comes, the court only looks at the father for financial support, and disregards the close relationship between the father and the child, instead of encouraging it. Courts need to enforce visitation rights with the same threat of jail time as they do with enforcement of child support. But, what judge has the courage to put a mother in jail and risk the press coverage portraying him as a misogynist? The courts are not doing what's best for the children. They are doing what's best and easiest fot the judge and the court system.

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My child's father is about $60,000 in arrears in child support and has not paid anything in over a year. Florida Child support says that they cannot find him and I don't understand that. Why can't they be tracked down through their social security number as to where they are working. This has been a long and stressful process with the feeling that nobody cares of the well being teen child. There has to be a way to track her father. Massachusetts child support was very strict as to pursuing the order and took action when he did not pay....where should i go from here at a lose and it is a sin that these father's are getting away with this and not only hurting the child emotionally but finanically too.

I have been on both sides of this fence and it's a tough one, for sure. I have a child that I was and still am receiving support for, then I metand married my ex-husband. He has a child 1 year younger than mine. He paid more a month in child support for that one child than he was able to give to the household's monthly expenses. And the mother never worked, had a new car and bought HERSELF new clothes every other day. So I know how it feels to be on that end of it. It feels so unjust that nobody seems to take into account that she's not doing anything to help herself or that child, just living off the child support that she's getting. And then, we got pregnant. Did they lower the support now that he had another child at home to take care of? No! They actually raised it by $30.00 a month! WHAT??!! Now we are divorced, but still on good terms. Knowing what he's going through with his first child we came to an agreement on what he would pay me a month, which the courts thought I wasa crazy to accept. But I know that on the months that he can, he'll give me extra. Fast -forward to today. I have another baby, she's 17 months old and her father moved out of my house 6 months ago to go back and live with his parents. So, needless to say, he pays no rent. Has no car-payment. And hasn't paid me more than $300.00 in those 6 months. When he brings home almost $2000 a month! I'm certainly not one of those mothers that is trying to have babies so I can live off the child support... I work my ass off at my full-time job, and I'm going back to school so I can get a better job. All while raising 3 children. I just need a little bit of help. And they're no just MY children, I didn't conceive by myself. So the daddys need to help too.

I have 2 kids and going to be ordered to pay child support. My wife kicked me out of the house and I was ok with that thinking the whole thing would blow over. I was paying possibly more than my fair share of support for my kids and her(boy am I stupid). My wife lied and told me that she wanted to get back together with me while all the time was with the other man. I guess she thought I would not find out. I am now scrapping pennies to pay for myself to live and I still do not live correctly. If it wasn't for my mom I do not know what would hve haooeded, I have now been served with child support papers. I have seen my kids a few times and I miss them terribley. She has a live in boyfriend who moved in about 2 weeks after I left. she now has my kids calling him dad instead of me. When she fuond out that i wasserved papers then she has brought the kids to see me and now let to talk on the phone with them. I just wanted to say if you leave make sure you get reciepts for everything that you have done for your kids. I used to get reciepts but after she told me that she wanted to get back together, I stopped getting reciepts thinking that everthing would be back better than what it was. PLEASE DO NOT BE AS STUPID AS I WAS!!!!

how do u exactly find out if payments are made online what website

My husband and I have been married for 11 years and have three great children. He has been ordered to take a paternity test for a child that was born 12 years ago. The child support agency has already sent a court order to obtain all of our financial information to set up child support for the pending case. He has not even been determined as the biological father. IThe woman accusing him has already lost her first child to her ex-husband and she has already had two other men tested for the biological status for this child. She really doesn't know who the daddy is. I am sorry for the child, but I think it is unfair to me and my husband and to all the others who is being ordered to pay child support for a child they never even knew existed. She should have been ordered to give the child up for adoption and then ordered to be fixed. This case with my husband is clearly not for the benefit of the child, she has just ran out of someone to pay her way. I had to help support our three kids, and I don't see why women like her should be any different. They should be held responsible for spreadind their legs. I think our child support system is un fair to men.

am trying to find out if my sons father made any payments yet?

My husband is paying child support for his two other children from a previous marriage and really cant help support the one he has with me beacause almost all his money is going to his ex wife. He is behind on child support but he has been paying his arrear and he still has the same balance from two years ago how can the state justify that and also the state of LA is ruining his credit. That is not right and we are tired of hiring lawyers it is to expensive.

Help my sisters daughters is 8 and 16. My sister and her husband have been divorced for 3 years. There mother has a live in man friend who the children HATE . He has no relationship with the girls at all

I have been reading everyone;s comments and we are on the other end. I am married to a great man and when we met he did not have custody. A year later the boys (2) there mom just got up and moved to another city and she would keep the child support even though we have the boys. 1yr later my husband won custody of the boys. GET THIS!!! It took the atty general 1LONG YEAR just to collect money. She paid 3 months and quite her job so no child support again. took 4months to find her she got another job we got about 4 payments and again quite her job. Took another 3 months to find her. Now she is paying here and there.OHH did I mention she see her kids about 4 times a year for 24 hrs each visit. bad thing.Also the boys have no ins. cause she is always quiting her job. So there are also DEADBEAT MOTHERS!!!!

What do you do if the noncustodial parent was terminated from their job due to staff reduction and the only income that parent has is their unemployment check? Also, if the children spend more time with the noncustodial parent(due to the childrens preference) is that cause for a reduction in child support due?

First off does anyone have a clue what the docket fee is??? I already have $3 extra a week as a fee, why do I have to pay another $55 for an annual fee?? Greedy bastards!!! Also, I don't mind paying child support. The problem I have is that I pay child support and my ex has only worked one year out of the seven I have been paying. If a person can not support a child on their own, they should not have custody of them. I can't afford to pay a lawyer and fight for to have my son so I'm just screwed. In Steuben Co. the man has no rights.

I was paying child support until I lost my job last year,then they suspended my license.Now,I am working again and they are taking child support out of my paychecks,but they still have not lifted the suspension off of my license.How long will this process take before they take the suspension off?

I have 2 children. 1 lives w/ his grandmother, and the other lives w/ me. When the child support for my son that lives w/ his grandmother was put into place, I didn't have my other son. Now she called for a modification hearing because the "needs of the child have changed". I am currently paying $190 bi weekly on him now. Will they take into consideration that I have custody of the other child, and how much can they raise it? I am only making $4 more of what I was making when the order went into affect. Does anybody know? I just don't want them ripping me for an outrageous amount, when I have my 13 yr old son now living w/ me, and I have to support him also and keep a roof over our head.

i would like to know how about going after these dead beat dads? I am a single mom trying to make ends meet by working at a mcDonalds and doing everything i can just to make the next pay check with no help from the dads!! I can not afford to hire a lawyer and they know that, they both work but still I pay for school and clothes and everything else... In desperate need of some good advice!!!

In the case of arears support, a parent can get greedy and demand more money. This should never be allowed to happen!! This is happening to my husband right now! He has paid his support faithfully for years!!!! It's all about what the other DEMANDS!!!

My ex-husband lost his company and his license and has not worked in 2 years. I get no child support and have him on a court ordered job search with no job yet. My attorney said I can get support from his mother since she is supporting him. I have a good relationship with his Mom so I don't want to go there. She is not really supporting his job search because she has to drive him every where. I can't afford to keep taking him to court( what a loser).

so what happens when a guy is getting money taken from his check every two weeks and the ones who takes this surpport money still take his tax returns and put a hold on his car title. so where"s his right and how is he to live?

Hi i am a mother of a 5yr old and one on the way in less than three months. my son's father doesn't pay child support cause i took him off cause who can raise a child off 17 dollars a week. that's not enough to get nothing with. so why bother. and then there's the father of the child i am going to have in July he does his best to take of us the best he can but i don't think it's fair to him to handle all this weight. and this is his first child. what do i do? i know if he's okay with helping let him,but what about the dead beat shouldn't he be reasonable for something?

Well, I have been reading some of these comments, and I am sorry for all of you that have dead beat dads that won't pay up. I am on the other end of things though...I just got married to a man that has been divorced. He pays more in child support a month than we do in rent. He pays diligently, and his ex wife still tries everything to keep his 3 year old from us. Now, she is wanting to put their child in pre-school, and that's 200.00 more a month on us, and we get to see him even less. We are going to have to file for bankrupsy to even afford all of this. We can't even afford to have our own kids or own a home. At the time of his divorce, she wasn't working, and still isn't. She remarried a man with no house payment and no car payment. It isn't fair to people like us that try so hard to pay what we should, but can't even afford our own food on the table. Any suggestions? ALC

Hi. I am in the process of raising my child support. I have 3 children. I was manipulated into signing the divorce papers and NOT go through his business that I helped him grow. I got divorced with 3 children and no job. I got back on my feet with a 6 figure income. BUT currently I have a 450K house and NO job. he sees the children two times a month and makes 800K a year. The so called "cap" in Texas really hurts mothers like us. Before marriage I made more money than him and now I have 3 kids and a 400 credit score. Oh- he was also the cause of me loosing my job. He wants me to be so low financially that I "need"him! But he won't make a house payment.

MY CHILD SUPPORT IS BEING PAID BUT IM NOT GETTING IT

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if u hav raised ur child for the past eleven years , how do you go about ending this fight with foc snatching your income tax refunds and taking child support out of every check with my name on it after i have struggled to raise my son without a mother.

my neighbor has had her nephew for the last 21/2 years she has not asked foe any support because she knew that the mother would make him leave. Just recently the father of the son found out that the child support was not being used for his son and that the mother has been living off of it and getting dfood stamps so he asked if they could each send his sister half of the support she then took him out of his stabble home with his aunt and sent him to his bother who doesent have a job he is missing a lot of school. Is there anything that the father can do.

My ex will not keep a job but is living in a home with his 4th wife that was recently listed for over 700,000. They have everything in her name.....is there anyway I can get back child support

my sons father has been in prison sense he was 3 sense hes doing life i get nothing ive been sruggleing for 9 years only getting harder

if the mother does not allow you to see the child and is ordered by the courts to do so. yet she is always requesting more money from some one who doesnt have a job at the moment what can i do. What would be my defense if I am trying to get a source of income. And why wouldn't she be pusnished for not following the court order as she should.

I don't understand, in the state of TX they charge you interest if you fall behind. Kids are not credit cards, it doesn't cost the other parent to make up the difference. I think all the staes are to get the non-custodail parent a hard time, and even if you fall behind and the y children are grown up and married and you are still paying support to the custodail parent. It doesn't go to the kids it's in their pocket. The systems around the country are all different, but interrest, come on what is this world coming too.

I raised my child by myself for three years! Her father only came over when it was convenient for him. I got sick of the pot and him temper! He had no problem paying till I married another man. Now he wants to take her and not pay anything..... i havent let him have her cause I know he's doing elegal drugs. They say he can still get her from school cause he's her father enless I have a restraning order I can't get one cause nothing has become physical YET! He's threating to take her. I can't affoerd to take him to court.

EVERY non custodial parent should pay child support, too bad if they have been irresponsible and made other bills that they cannot pay for. When I first got my divorce, I was making 100,000 a year, my child support was 700.00 per month. Then I lost my job and went to work for 39,000 per year. I never made my child suffer because I lost my job, I got a night job just to pay child support with. For eight years I made the 700.00 per month chils support payment eventhough I could have had it lowered. My duaghter knows how hard I worked to support her through school and now we have the best relationship any parent could want. No matter what the parent has to do to pay child support they have a moral and LEGAL obligation to pay every cent.

I HAVE A 3.YR OLD SON HE LIVES WITH ME WELL ALL MY FAMILY IS TELLING ME TO GET CHILD SUPPORT FROM MY SONS DAD HE LIVE 6 HRS AWAY CALLS HIM EVERYDAY .. BUT HE DOESNT WANT ME TO APPLY FOR IT HES GOING HAVE ANOTHER SON PREETY SON WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND HE SAID HES NOT GOING TO HAVE MONEY FOR HIS BILLS OR ANYTHING ELSE AND THAT HE WONT HAVE MONEY TO PICK UP MY SON OR ANYTHING SHOULD I STILL APPLY FOR IT ?? I FEEL GUILTY IF I WOULD >>...

how many percent to pay for child support in income tax

I was placed on child support by a girl by someone i did not know had a child from me. I sent her 2 certified letters to try and get a paternity done on the child, she did respond, but my license suspended. What to do now?

I am a single mother of a girl. she is 3 years old and her dad has only payed for to months and then he stoped paying. how do I get him to pay? How do I find out when he has court dates because I want to attend them to know what is going on?

i am paying support for my son. i need to have it modified. i pay $87 a week for 1 child. i took a 5% pay cut at work. what do i need to reduce this.

I owe back chil suport. I am trying to find out much I owe. Can you please send me info on how I can find out what I owe. My email address is therascaal@aol.com. Thankyou for your time.

My ex is behind over $103,000 in child support. He too has been in and out of prison expanding over several years. The issue that really upsets me, is that there was at least one time that I know of that he had over $1000.00 cash in his pocket when he was arrested. I am completely against drugs and the selling of drugs, and the money that he had was drug money, but it would of been nice if they could have put that money to good use by giving it to my children instead of locking it up in the county courthouse or where ever they put dirty money.

i want to abandon the rights to the child that this young lady says we bared together over 14 year ago. i don't believe the child is mine. how may i go through this process. i have been paying child support for a long time. also i do not care for nothing in return, just to give up the parternal rgihts.

I have a question. Now that i get my child support on this credit card type thing, everyday, child support takes 25 cents out? for what?!?!? Does anyone know why this happens? I want my checks back! At least then, you didnt have to pay ATM and all kinds of other fees just to use your CHILD support! My god, they are taking money away from the kids by doing this. My husband works, BUT there are alot of mothers out there that COMPLETELY depend on this money for bread, milk, diapers etc and if they take all this extra just because THEY wanted it on a stupid card, then all fees should be waived! And this card is a Mastercard, yet, there are ALOT of places that do NOT even accept this card! NO gas station will accept it, alot of stores and alot of places online, its crazy. I have one more question...I called the hotline last night and it said there was $7 on my card. I call this morning and it says there is ZERO dollars on it. It said on today there was 2 transactions. They were for $24 and for $7 and they were called pre authorization settlement credits??? Does anyone know what the heck that is? Also, my ex had his taxes garnished due to back owed child support. He had them done approx 4 weeks ago. Does anyone know how long it takes for child support to put what is owed on my card? Just curious. And how do some of these women I know get SOOO MUCH money every week or month?!?! My ex is a paramedic making$18 and hour and I get $80 a week for 2 children. Yet I have a friend whose ex makes $17.50 an hour at his job and he pays her $171 a week for ONE child!!!! How in the world do the courts figure this stuff out? As far as I have always known, you got a percentage fo thier gross income, period! But not anymore. Now some do and some dont. And my ex went and had 4 more kids even though he wants NOTHING to do with our two. He cant even feel them half the time cuz whatever money he gets, him and his g/f go straight to walmart each week and blow it on themselves! AND they get welfare cuz they arent married, $800 a month in foodstamps, cash medical, etc. he is off collecting disability while working under the table cuz he aint really hurt! UGH! sorry, had to vent a little there! haha. But some answers to some of my questions would be VERY helpful and i thank everyone in advance!! Take Care.

i have my child and the mother still is collecting childsupport how can i get it stoped , shes taken my last 2 years income taxes and ive had my child since may 28, 2007, i even get a medical card on this child and people still lets the mother collect on this child , thought you all was for the child i guess depends on if your the mother or the father, i happen to be the father this time so wheres my HELP I NEED

where is equal rights ???????????????

If my paychecks are being garnished would the garnishment originate from the state in which I reside? The reason I ask is because the state in which she resides states that I have never made a payment to them and that state has put an intercept on my tax returns. What can be done to correct this issue?

MY HUSBAND OF 2 YEARS HAS 4 OTHER KIDS THAT HE WAS PAYING CHILD SUPPORT ON.WE HAVE A 3 YEAR OLD AND IT WAS SO HARD FOR US TO PAY EVERYTHING THAT HE HAD TO SIGN HIS RIGHTS AWAY ON HIS 6 YEAR OLD TWIN BOYS.THE PARENTS SHOULD SHARE EVERYTHING BUT HE WAS PAYING TO TAKE CARE OF HIS EX WIFES KID TO THATS NOT HIS.ITS LIKE U HAVE TO PAY TO SEE KIDS THAT ARE YOURS AND THAT NOT RIGHT.Y DONT THE OTHER PARENT JUST GET A JOB AND ASK THE OTHER PARENT TO HELP THEM WHEN IT IS NEEDED.

I need to reopen an old case. How? I never got a penny of clild support. Children grown now, but I believe the money is still owed to me?

WHY DONT THEY INSIST ON A U.A WHEN PEOPLE GET ASSISTANCE FROM THE STATE, DO THEY WANT EVERYBODY DOING CRACK OR WHAT???????

I'm currently paying support for my 20 year old, who is a father of four. The child support office in Puerto Rico still considers him a minor as he is not 21 years of age. However, he resides with his girlfriend and increasing the size of his family. Must I continue to pay support. Please advice.

I'm a father who is trying to be in his child's life and I'm being denied. I was recently released from prison and I'm just getting to the point where I am able to live. I need to find a lawyer and or legal aid in the county to where they can help me with counsel so that I'm able to proceed with seeing and being in my daughter's life, could you please help me get started with some information, thank you for time and listening ear.

so tell me why a judge can give a man that bets his girl friends and doesn't want to take care of his kids half custody? i am just now 21 and i was with this man for 3 yrs the last 2 yrs we were together he beat on my through dirty diapers at me tried to run with my daughter !!! now that we aren't together he act's like he wants some thing to do with her when he has time when he's not out partying all the time he has 1 other kid that he don't take care of we have been split up for almost 2 yrs and not once have i asked him for a penny he has bought her 2 packs of diapers and now he's complaining that he has to start paying money for his daughter and thats what the judge's oder not mine

Everyone do the absolute best you can for all the children in your lives. They are the next generation get busy and teach your children how to pick a life a life partner! Everyone value the children! Stop complaining how much they cost our parents never complained how much we cost and everytime we needed them to this day!!

I think its screwed up that as a father, who wants to see his kid, I have to basically give my soul to the devil just to make it happen and the courts have no sympathy to give both parents an equal agreement. Is it fair that it has been 6yrs since I have seen my son because his mother (kristine Walsh) decided to take him out of school and move to florida without a letter or even a phone call. Is it fair that due to the BS of stupidity and screwed up politics, that my other children have to miss out of a lifetime of sibling enjoyment and time that they will never be able to make up. Don't get me wrong, yeah I owe quite a bit of support but when the courts don't consider that you are supporting 3 other people and only bringing home $900 a month, how do they expect to make the support for $450 mth. Why not trying to tell the truth when you fill out for that support paper and try to make it not so much of a pain in the non-custodial parents butt when they want to come see the kid if they are willing. Did you ever wonder, maybe thats why they don't come by. Kids are the ones suffering. Its not about the two of you anymore. Oh yeah, DEAD BEATS do us a favor, wrap it up or stop having sex. Its morons like you that make it hard for parents like me.

My son was married for appx 6 years. His wife, ex now, would up and leave without notice and take the child with her, etc, etc. Anyway, their divorce was final Dec 5th of 2008. When he first had papers drawn up, they said that child support would begin on Nov 1.He was under the impression that it wouldn't start until the divorce was final, which was Dec. 5th. Therefore, he had given her money for the child, but it was in cash. He is paid up from Dec 5 till present. He got a letter from DHS today, stating that he was in arrears for Nov and Dec.He had paid her over the amount for 2 weeks in Dec, (with receipts to prove it), then was laid off. It took time for his unemployment to get set up, so he didn't start receiving money until mid January, at which time he caught up the amount that he would have owed. She lied to DHS! Told them that she had not received anything for Nov or Dec and the affadavit she signed was dated Jan. 21st,which was 5 days after he had given the money to catch up from when he wasn't receiving an income. Granted, he will probably have to pay for Nov because he doesn't have receipts for the cash he gave her. Is he required by law in the state of MS to pay for the weeks that he wasn't receiving income. If not, can that he has paid be applied to what they say he owes for Nov. Also, will anything be done to her for lying to the courts and DHS? By the way, she has 3 kids form another marriage that she has never paid child sup[ It should at least make her lose credibility with these agencies. By the way, she has 3 kids from her first marriage that she does not have custody of and has never payed he child support except for when she was in this marriage that I am discussing. She said that she wanted her support through DHS so he couldn't do to her wwhat she did to her former husband. Ain't that a kicker! Anyone know the answers to the questions I asked?

Hi, I am 21 and Im raising two kids basicly by myself yeah I understand their mine but I feel as though their fathers should be there. I go through hell in back to get my little girls father to get her or even come see her. My son daddy Ireally cant say to much about because he always gets him, but I just feel as though Im tired of putting up wit my little girls daddy HIs on child support but i dont see it so im just to the point where I dont know what to do

My husband pays support faithfully, in fact he is currently ahead on it, monthly. He also pays for all travel expense to get my step-daughter, even though the divorce papers/parenting plan state he picks up and the mom is to come get her. He has joint custody of his daughter and does everything he can to stay in her life. We have to buy all clothes and daily products for her since her mother has never let her bring anything when she comes. My husband carries medical, dental, vision, and prescription insurance on his daughter. We recently helped with a down payment on braces for her teeth, even though there is not mention of this in papers, as the work could not be started until this was paid and he would gladly do anything he could for his daughter. We have made a few payments on the braces since then. We bought all of her school supplies this year. His ex-wife is remarried to a man that makes roughly $25.00 an hour and she works part time. My husband makes $13.50 an hour and I can not work as I have muscular dystrophy, so my husband is the sole supporter of myself an our daughter. Their divorce papers state my husband can claim his daughter on even years for tax purposes and she gets odd years. The problem being anytime she wants things to go her way she threatens to take my husband back to court for more child support and he knows we just can't do much more then we already do, caves and lets her get her way. This has been going on for 11 years. My husband does pay a very low amount of child support $100.00 a month and has had this same amount since they were divorced even though he makes more now then he did 11 years ago. I have 2 older children from a previous marriage and I think the amount is low but we support our, his, daughter in every other way that we can. We always thought it evened out but she didn't see it that way. 2008 is our year to claim on taxes and she did her usual, "if we can't claim her then I will take you back to court for more support". As I said my husband has always caved and let her have her way, but he finally stood up to her today, but after thinking about it he is scared she will apply to get more support and it will be granted. We can't afford it and still have to financially support her here as if she lived with us. What can we do? Is there a support calculater anywhere? How much more can she get? Do any of my medical bills, that he pays, matter any? We are at a loss as to what to do and after all this happened we got a call from one of my doctors stating I may have cancer so there are more bills and issues. We are sunk and he is scared about what she will and can do to him. Can anyone help us with our case and answer our questions or give us some info.?

does the child support end after high school? also how can I lower my payments because i barely can pay my bills

I am a mother who doesn't understand the system and to me it isn't fair. I have two sons who are divorced and the oldest son has five children, and has been paying child support since 2005. He works very hard and has roughly $900 taken out a month for child support. He has one son who is 19 and is living on his own, and has a full time job, yet my son is still paying for him. He has had one of his son who is sixteen come to live with him and has been with him since early summer and is still paying for him. He has gone to the county office and they tell him it will be six to eight months before he gets it strainghtened out and in the meantime it comes out of his check. He doesn't have enough money left from his check to make his house payment and other expenses. I don't think it is fair that the county cannot get this straight and he will not be reembursed for any of the money. My younger son is divorced and has full custody of his six year old daughter. It has been 3 years since his divorce and his ex-wife has not paid any money. She was ordered to pay $400 a month and to pay half of the bills at the time, which amounted to $3000. Why does one have to pay so much and others do not have to pay a thing. How does someone go to court and be sentenced and never have to pay the system? There is something wrong with our court system.

I need to know where I can get the following form as directed to get: "Modification of support"

i currently pay support for my son who is fifteen meand his mother have been apart for ten years i would like to get remarried would my new wife haveto pay by court order if we were married.

The mother has a masters degree in pyschology and refuses to work. Her current husband is the only one who brings in an income. Can this lower the fathers child support? She could very well have a high paying job and does not want to work. Will the court even take this into consideration? Also, at what age can a child decide which parent he/she wants to live with, assuming both parents are able to support the child full time?

How is it when a woman takes a partner, and despite the fact she knows how her mate feels about children, fails in her duty to take the necessary precautions to prevent her pregnancy. And decides even though they were not married, and that he has offered to pay for a termination, decides that she wants to keep the baby in hopes it will get him to stay with her knowing he doesn't want to, and he is basically forced to pay for 18 yrs out of his pocket for something he never wanted? And you'll always here parents say, " oh it's the children who suffer. So who made them suffer? This confuses me. And it's not right. Her feelings weren't the only feeling's that mattered. Where was the respect and consideration for his? En-trapment is NEVER a good thing to do to a man or woman. What gives her all the right's? Signed a proud independent woman

My brother has a 18 yr old daughter who quit school in the 11th grade, won't work and has no plans for the futrure to finish school or work. My brother has payed child support for 12 years plus gives the daughter money out of his weekly pay check. My question is at what age should child support stop and an 18 year old girl start acting like the adult she says she is.

well to me child support help because since my son been born his father only get him a pack of dampers and clothes for christmas but other then that his never around and never call he want me to tell him what to do if i dont tell him them he wouldnt do nothing and if i ask for money he tells me i will never put money in your hand or if i ask him to get him something he will never get it and as single ma with no job i ask my family for it but as a father he should just give it to me it for his son. i want child support and full custody but iam afarid that his going to liar about everything what should i do

Im sorry I just commented in and didnt make my self clear, My husband has been making child support payments corretly as advised for 7 years, before that he and his ex spent time raising their daughter together but seperated, which worked lovely, she was happy, moved in with another man, but maintaining a good friendship with her ex( my husband) she had the best of both worlds! Before then he spent time in and out and not a "fulltime" parent, but still had family that loved and supported his daughter when he was in need and couldn't do so, for 10 years he has been sober and an all around hands on dad, and now for the past 6 years a hands on dad and hard working husband, serioulsly if she feels she should be imbersed for back pay, why not just ask and try to communicate? You might have been able to save a friendship for your daughters sake. Funny how when someone elses life is not goiing their way the other party feels the need to crap on the one that is happy and content! What is someone to do? If you are already paying for everything you can and trying to more and don't have anywhere else to turn...... Hurt and helpless

To the lady who's husband's ex is using his ss#. THAT IS IDENTITY FRAUD! THROW HER BUTT in jail! Giving her everything she wants only lets her think she can get more. I understand wanting to be left alone but she will not go away. You have tried turning the other cheek. Now fight back. I have been in that same situation. Lying down is not the way to go. You will end up paying an outrageous amount and end up paying her utilities and cc because they are in his name. PLEASE take my advice.

i pay child support to two different ex wife a thirteeen get 126.00 and 50% of all school and sport activities that are necessary and now the child service said i have to start paying 60% of all medical bills after insurance paid where we agreed in divorce it was 50% her new husband has great insurance where he works and he has a family plan and my daughter is on his plan at no extra charge and i pay like three dollars extra to them so I don't have to have insurance myself . i want to take her back tocourt to get this agreement taken off because isn't that what child support is for and I can barely afford to give her the child support and I have a daughter who is three and i give her mother 151.38 a week and am paying 25.00 extra each week to catch up where i got behind.we got a divorce a year ago and when we deceided to start letting it come out of my check and going to child service i owe her 1200.00 and the judge signed off on that and then they started taking it out the very next week and they sent me a letter saying I was 2100.00 behind and i wrote them a letter and i have called them and my ex even told them i didn't owe that much. i have since then paid 575.00 on this and i got a letter the other week saying i was 1800.00 behind and have been paying this down for months now. they are a bunch of people who don't know what they are doing and i had paid 300.00 to my other ex wife but gave her a check didn't know had to still give it to them when i wasn't working so i gave her about 500.00 in cash like a big dummy and three in checks and they didn't count any of it not even the checks until she took me to court and they said they would take the checks i had done repaid all of this back to her these people need to be checked out

I never see my child money at all

My Daughter father owe over 20,000 and he pay's when ever he deside to work . Why is he allowed to do this and get away with this. I was a single mom for 10 years before i meant my husband i had to work and do everything and pay to this day he health insurence and he still father work when ever he like it . I do not understand to this day he has not been lock up he still lives in N.Y i live Pa and they have not done nothing about it he works when ever he feel like's it and they will not rise the support because he request it not to be rise even thow he owes back support it will never get paid off if the courts do nothing about it . he pay's 45 a week when its to be 81.00 a week

i was paying child support and ins. and they came to my job and put me in jail for owing 640.00! now i'm 1340.00 behind because of being locked up! some of you just ar'nt taking the right steps to collect. in jan. i go back facing 71 more days and will probly have to do them. i am prepared to loose another job due to the screwed up systom in clermont county!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

okay, what about a woman who has to pay child support because the father of our daughter gave her to his mother and she wants every penny she can get? My ex gave our daughter to his mother. I am now married and have two other children to support. Currently I am unemployed. I have been filling out applications,but it's not always easy to get a job. Anyway I slipped and fell a week ago & now I may need knee surgery. I am behind on my child support by three months, what do I do?

Wow Im reading all this and I am a mother who is getting screwed. I pay child support to a Major in the army who makes 7,300 a month and I am unemployed. They are threatening to take my drivers license and put me in jail. I have been looking for a job but with the enconomy it has been really hard. Any advice?

hi im a dad that is not married but has three little ones with my partner she is filling for child support an for my visitation rights what kind i do. like to now my options and as a parent what can i do

I'm a father of two wonderful children. My daughter's mother is a good parent and lets me see her whenever I want to. My son's mother, on the other hand, is being very unreasonable. I try to see him, but she makes it impossible. I want to establish my rights as a good father. I don't make very much money but I try to very hard(within the law). What are my options?

I have been in my daughters life since her day of conception... When she was about 6 me and her mother went seperate ways... The whole time I was there I supported her and the baby... Upon moving I found out that the whole time we lived together she was collecting child support telling the county that i wasn't in my daughters life... Since i never knew of the claim, the interest compiled to the point where they shut down 2 of my bank accounts and snatched every income tax return and goverment funds I was allowed... Now I owe close to 50,000 dollars for back pay when I have been there since day 1... I need to know what my options are? The county judge totally believes her false testimony leaving me in the cold to fend for myself...

Is there a way for someone who owes child support to set to Child Support Enforcement in Missouri online every payday in the amount he is supposed to pay? If so, let me know where to send it and I can print out a receipt of payment and the date. That way it will get there much quicker I would think.

I understand that a child should ,be supported by both parents, but when only one parent is getting the shaft I don't thnk it is fare. You pay your child support and because the mother of your child wants to build a new house she decides she does not want to pay for insurance anymore, you now have to, tell me were this is rite. I raised my child to be responsible and they do take care of their children, but it makes it hard when you can not get your head above water when someone aways wants a hand out. I think that the rate of pay that is given to pay chid support should not be more than what you make in a 40 hour week and not basted on your net pay. No one is guaranteed over time. But, yet if your pay goes down it takes 6 months for the court to change any think not counting lawyer fees. This is another subject, what really upsets me is that the courts keep giving some of these mother there children back ,after being pulled over with drugs and high on them and the child has them all over her, she has been over dosed twice and they still give them back.Tell me were the justice is in that. I and my husband raised 7 children and took care of one that lived with my mother on a forth of what some of these high class dope addict gets for one and I'm not saying all of them are dope addicts. But, one thing for sure someone is getting screwed and it's not always the woman in this world.

Ok, so I am reading some of the comments and can't believe most of them so I had to comment. My wife cheated on me, and now I only get to see my kids every other week. I can not get full custody because there is no neglect on her part but now I am going to be forced to pay child support because she lost her job because she screwed around and got canned.

i dont understand why some of you or any of you are comeplaining i am raising four kind on my own the oder three i get little to nothin and the fourth one i dont get anythin for his passed and i were not married and his dads family refuses to help me in anyway some of you ought to feel prevlaged to get anything cause the are alot of kids doing with out.

I'M a mother of 2 girls.I live in NY. Their father didn't do his visitation like he was suppose to. I only received 40.00 a week for the both of them. how far do you think that goes. I got stuck with all medical bills also everything they needed I had to get for them. Now my youngest that is 18 moved out.her father conned her in moving in with him. then they took me to court for child support. I got stuck paying 60.00 a week. Now she is in collage. The money was going in to an account for her, but her father stolen 600.00 from the account to take his girlfriends nephew to Florida and settle him in his collage.but didn't even take his own daughter to her collage and get her settled in. That is a real loser of a father. Now she knows how much of a jerk his is. I think when they turn 18 no one should have to pay child support. The kids should learn to be adults and get a job.

I feel for men. U pic women that dont work and now u r stuck paying all or most of your wages n suport.. Too much wages come out and force some men not to pay cause they can't support 2 households. Make adjust to the amount taken out then maybe more men would step up. We n a depression. Ny

why can a mom call the father and ask him to pick up the girls and when she finds out that he wanted to get notification from the girls progress in school, she calls and threatens to call the police and report him for having the girls when he wasn't suppose to. he only wants to be involved with his girls. the system isn't fair to fathers.

why do the father have to still pay child support when child is 18 an finished school

I am sorry and very disappoint in life and maybe not in my self. This is not an accidents. I'm making a statements like that you know on what I say holds the truth because , I just can't understand anything. At home I just have a regular answering machine none of that Verizon stuff. Just old school answering machine. So I'm hearing the message and is my daughters mother, telling me if i'm going to my daughters babyshower?? That's what was left on my answering machine. You know my daughter is only 16 years old. I'm 37 and now i have to be a Grandfather. Because she/my ex has this game and she is married and all with 2 more kid's ( girl's )............But i don't have anything or nothing to do with her cause of living. She has me paying childsupport for 13 years , 13 years for no reason. But this take's the cake. Now what I have to continue paying childsupport for a baby??? with a baby!!! I need some real feedback on this. Thank you.

I think the way child support is it sucks for the fathers. I'm a divorce mother of 5. I get my money. But the father that have never married the mother,don't get visitation rights. unless he takes her to court. How is the father to get address to take to court. How many have the money to take the mother to court to get rights. The mother always gets help with money. I think if they give her money than the father should get just as much rights as the mother on paper.

What are legit. uses of child support in NYS? What can and can't it be used for? Thank You!

my wife left me & my son in july . she is seeing someone else & my son don'n want anything to do with her . while she seeing this other guy . we had an agreement on what she gave me aweek and she was paying it sense then she filed for a devorce and her lawyer said for her not to give me anything until after the devorce ' so now me & my son are strugling trying to make ends meet while she lives with her mom & pays no bills I was just wandering at what point does the court allow you to go back to . to allow you to collect back child support . Shouldn't she be responsable to. thanks.

I love much children, just didn't like the way my wife evolved. I am willing to support them all their life, with more than just money. I make 150000 a year, How much should I have to pay in support? What are the laws with spousal support?

NEED TO KNOW ABOUT PAST PAID CHILD SUPPORT BY TERRY M. TIPPS THROUGH SOCIAL SECURITY DISABILITY PRESENT AND PAST

After my wife and I sepperated I visited my children for about five months. Then my wife found a boyfriend and up and moved between my visits. None of her family would tell me where they had moved too. Also I knew she would right away get on welfare so I went to the State welfare department and asked her case worker where my children were. I was denied this information with no cause. For the past sixteen years I have not seen my children but the state which denied me the whereabouts of my children want me to pay what they are calling child support but is actually an attempt to collect the welfare money payed to my ex. Nebraska has a Self Sufficency Program that has been in place sense 1995 but they did not make my ex take part in this program. She even defruaded the government twice while we were together by recieving welfare when I was paying all the bills. Instead of the welfare department stoping the checks, theycontinued to pay her monthly and deducted an amount for the checks she was not suppose to have been getting. But the checks they made deductions from she also was not suppose to be getting. I am disabled and am not even paid enough to bring me above the poverty level but they insist I have to pay anyway. I am being told pretty much that even if I have to live on the streets that I must still pay. This is not right or fair to me because of being deprived the right to be a part of my childrens and them a part of my life for the past sixteen years.

My daughter, who was with her boyfriend for 16 years, has split up with him after having 3 children, when she learned he has been living with and paying another womans rent and bills for the past 4 months. Now she is living with myself and her dad(whom are both on disability) with her 3 children, 12,9 and 5 years old, and the father is from a multi-million dollar family, and we have been trying to go thru the process of getting support for his children. We have found out that from his $6000/month trust fund, he will be paying $1446/month for child support. Not per child, but for all three. We are thankful to eventually get something, but what mother with 3 children can pay rent, food and survive on that ?

I defenilty agree with the fact that there something that needs to be done in congress. If the mother only wants the money and won't allowed the father to see their child than why should the mom getting any money. NO CHILD NO MONEY. Its not just fair to the mothers but the fathers too especially when mothers chose to not to allow their child to see their father.

Most of these women who are getting pregnant are just getting pregnant for the child support. I think ot is highly unfair to the men. If a woman does not let the father see the child then they should not see the money either. That's why I am writing Congress to get something done about this. By the way I am a woman and I see my friends doing this to men , which is wrong. I know God would not appreciate this. So all of you fake christians out there talking about God and doing this type of stunt to human beings it will come back by 10's.

You can get started by contacting the divison of family services and they will tell you what steps you need to follow and where you can get more information

Being a mother myself who does not get any help whatsoever from my kids loser father, I am going to school to better myself so that I do not need help from anyone. I have a husband who does work and pays his child support for his other children while taking care of me and my children and our daughter. Not that they considered all of the circumstances when the court decided to take a large portion of money every month. So whoever wrote that I applaud you. Women take charge of your own lives, make something of yourself so that you do not have to depend on child support!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i been divorced for 5yrs.My X was suppose to pay child supporte for his two kids.By court order he was not able to visit with the kids unless suppervised but he did not want to pay to see them so he hasnt.But yet he has not payed child support for a 1 1/2 and i dont know what to do i have always taken care of my kids on my own without anyones help.Mom starting to struggle after so many years.

What I meant was, exactly how soon do child support payments usually begin after paternity has been established? Even after the court ordered the noncustodial parent to not have any contact with the custodial parent and child, could the noncustodial parent still try to get partial custody?

Question... My daughter is due to graduate and turn 18 in 2008... My child spt agreement states child spt is paid until child turns 18, marries or dies. I don't use this child spt, it goes into an account and used for her needs only. But what I need to know is, if she goes to college full time, (and she will), could child spt be extended to age 21? Reason I ask is, it will be almost impossible for her to work and support herself and go to college full time and I know he will not help her and it will be left to me to do... alone...

i have a 9 yrs old girl,i had never been married with her dad ,we live in palatine ill,and i need to get a child suport for her a.s.a.p. What is the first step to do

my boyfriend left his wife of 20 yrs 9 months ago to live with me. She has a docutmented (been in the mental ward twice in last year & her dads mental illness has been well established for a long time) mental problems , altho a real, thorough diagnosis has not been made. Anway, she wants $300 a week from my boyfreind. Last year he grossed $75,000.00. and she made about $150.00/week for less than half the year. My question is: we'de all like to come to an agreement to settle OUT of court, but we are not sure it will be viable and he will get credit for teh money he gives her. She took all their money out of the joint checking account and he gave her $5000 of his tax monies w/n last three months and she is frugal, yet wants more money. So, If we draw up a document agreeing that is how much he will pay, Is it legal and binding and will any judge take that into consideration when the time comes to divorce?