Learn proper child discipline
As a new parent or parent-to-be, you no doubt have many questions about raising children and disciplining them. But which child discipline techniques are going to be required, and which ones are considered acceptable? These days, there is actually a very thin line between discipline and child abuse. Some parents believe that what constitutes child abuse today is ridiculously unreasonable when compared to the methods used by earlier generations, but the law is still the law. Acceptable forms of discipline do exist, however. Here are some parenting tips when it comes to child discipline.
Forms of Child Discipline
The No Technique
Early on, during the toddler and pre-toddler years, you will have your first chances to mould your child's behavioral pattern. The method begins in a simple manner, yet the parent must retain a certain level of patience. Let us say, for example, your child is crawling towards something that he or she should not be playing with. Simply pick up the child, put them back where they started, and, getting down on the level of the child, simply say, "No!"
Of course, the child will likely make a second attempt. Keep repeating your reaction. In most cases, the child will end up crying, but it's important to remember that picking them up and babying them when they are in trouble will not help at all. Let them cry for a bit. In this manner, you are teaching your child that you mean it when you say "no." This is the first step in training your child to respect their elders.
This is where the line of discipline and child abuse gets kind of fuzzy. There was a time when school discipline techniques began with spanking using a wooden paddle. Today, this is considered child abuse and no school would dare take part in it. However, as a parent, you have a little more say in how your child is disciplined at home. By all means, do not strike your child with any object. Nevertheless, early on, when words mean little to your child, a quick and light swat on the diaper will generally do the trick. Do not under any circumstances put any force in it – that's completely unnecessary. Just a light swat will startle the child and they will realize that they are doing something wrong.
Other Forms of Child Discipline
When deciding the proper type of discipline for children, you must initially take into consideration the age of your child. For example, a time-out will work for a preteen child, but not for a baby. Younger children will not understand what a time-out is. Choose your particular form of child discipline carefully. There are many effective methods of discipline to choose from: grounding, spanking, time-outs or even giving the child an extra chore as punishment.
In the end, the parent must take a good look at every aspect of their child (e.g., temperament, age, personality) before deciding upon a punishment. The most important rule of disciplining a child is to think before you act. Always consider the punishment before you administer it. When your temper decides the punishment, you might cross the line between child discipline and abuse.