Bed Wetting

to the mother with the 8 yr old, that is so sad that you would treat her like that. And maybe if you didnt talk so negative about your child then you could help her get over her wetting the bed problem. And by you saying these things to her or about her now your just hurting her more than helping her. And you are also hurting her self asteem and she will possibly grow up to dislike the person that she has become cause her mom always tells her such negative things about herself. From the sounds of it YOU NEED THE HELP AND NOT HER.

My daughter is 15 years old and is still occasionally wetting the bed, why? She says she doesn't feel it, like...she doesn't feel that she needs to wake up and go to the bathroom. This problem is messing with her social life, and I don't know what to do..Help?

I have to respond to the "mother" (there are other words to describe her. . .) who had an eight-year old bed-wetter. (3/18/09). Very likely SHE is the cause of her daughter's bed-wetting problems. I also had the same problem as a little girl (same age!) and I can tell you the LAST thing I wanted was to wake up in a puddle of urine! And then to be ridiculed and treated like I did it on purpose, was absolutely humiliating! I ended up 'curing' myself later when I read that a great deal of these problems are caused by a weak bladder muscle. I began an exercise of holding it during the daytime a little longer (not TOO long) and eventually, the problem went away. However, the pain of having a mother's rage and ridicule has lasted years (and I'm now 59!) I had no problem with my own little ones and bed-wetting. If they did have an 'accident' it was no big deal. I'd help them get dry and cozy and back to sleep with a kiss and a hug. To that frustrated woman . . .DO YOU REALLY WANT TO RISK THE LOSS OF A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR DAUGHTER BECAUSE OF YOUR OUTRAGEOUS EXPECTATIONS OF HER? Shame on you!

To the "So called Mother" who's post dated 3/18/2009. What school did you graduate from? or did you? As you wrote at the end of your post, "3 Words", Um I beg to differ, that's 7, stupid. Your daughter would not know to clean herself if she has a dirty example to follow, Poor you... that she is not self sufficient. She may very well be peeing the bed for attention, or that she is so worried about making a mistake around you. Man, you must be so perfect, I bet you spit out your kids like bullets, being that you could turn coal into a diamond. What do you do when your baby does not sleep through the night? Don't bother explaining, I'm sure it is similar to your 8 year olds story, let me guess, the little one needs attention. You are posting your weakness as a mother, and I hope by the Grace of God you see one day what you are mentally doing to your 8 yr old. Maybe when your daughter is grown, she'll grow up to be just like you...and when you need assistance as a senior citizen, because your wetting your bed, she'll put you up in a nice old folks home so you can get all the attention you deserve. Best wishes to your children

This is directed to the writer from 3/18/2009. I am a mother of a 4 year old daughter and 11 year old step daughter. My youngest has had a few problem times, she was also potty trained around 18 months old and did great for a fairly long period of time. I returned to school to finish my nursing degree and she began bedwetting. At first I thought it was emotional and was bothered and could not figure out what to do. After time I figured out that while a was trying to keep life as normal as possible while working a full time job and going back to school it was still changing the way her routine went. I noticed that it was on the nights i was in class were the night she had accidents. Come to find out her dad was not being as strict about her drinking right before bed and she was sometimes even going to bed with a drink while I was gone. Listening to what you wrote hurts me to hear. I have never told anyone this before but you are a HORRIBLE MOTHER!!!! If you downgrade your child to her face the way you have here it will be a miracle that she manages to have any selfesteem and turns out decent. And if by chance she does it does not sound like it will be from any help fro you!! I have to love your child unconditionally. You can not trade them in for the new model when you have a new baby! I hope someone can make up for your stupidity and the poor child turns out ok. - K.Davis

I read many of your articles regarding treatment for bedwetting and felt inclined to respond. I work with the Enuresis Treatment Center, which deals only with bedwetting cases. We have treated thousands of children, teenagers, and adult bedwetters, tracking all related symptoms. Our extensive research validates bedwetting as a problem caused by abnormally deep sleep, which doesn’t allow for the bedwetter’s brain and bladder to connect so they can effectively respond to each other. In 99% of all bedwetting cases, (based upon our research of tens of thousands of documented cases) the root cause is sleeping so deeply. It is an inherited deep-sleep disorder that results in bedwetting and more importantly...a non-restorative, unhealthy sleep. This compromised sleep can also result in daytime symptoms; difficulty awakening, fatigue, memory difficulty, irritability, difficulty concentrating. These symptoms can increase as a bedwetter reaches adulthood. There is No guaranteed that someone will outgrow bedwetting, in fact after the age of seven, it is less likely. 1 in 50 teenagers, as well as 3.2 million reported cases of adults still wet the bed. More importantly, if someone were to outgrow this problem, they are then left with a sleep disorder, along with possible challenging symptoms that can no longer be treated. Proper treatment is never simple. Self-treatment programs alone do not address the sleep disorder. Studies show a very high rate of bedwetting relapse with alarms, which gives another failed experience. Bladder capacity and proper muscle strength must also be included during the course of treatment, regardless of the age, to ensure all bedwetting/sleep disorder symptoms’ are completely addressed. Psychological counseling has not been proven to end bedwetting. Neither has hypnosis, chiropractic care or homeopathic remedies. Many medical professionals misinform patients when they blame a small bladder as the cause of bedwetting. It is actually a RESULT of the bedwetting. Moreover, restricting fluids causes further underdevelopment of the bladder, as well as dehydration. If drugs are prescribed or considered to be at all effective, consider that once the drugs are discontinued, the bedwetting will likely resume. Drugs may serve as a temporary fix for a complicated problem, and drugs clearly produce side effects, some as yet unknown. For 34 years, the Enuresis Treatment Center has been ending bedwetting for children, teenagers, and adults who thought there was no hope. Our research and experience has validated that bedwetting can be treated without drugs or invasive surgery. The internet offers a great deal of information about bedwetting, unfortunately most of it is offered from sources that do not specialize in bedwetting treatment. When researching treatment programs, we suggest parents, or an adult seeking help, ask for references and check staff credentials. This will give better insight as to success and lasting results of a bedwetting treatment program. Sincerely, Lyle Danuloff, Ph.D.

My daughter is 8 years old and only started this about 6 mths ago, that on top of being too lazy to clean herself when she goes to the bathroom its a totally annoying and stupid problem. She was trained at 18 mths and had no probs till then. she seems to think she will get positive attention when she does it. She lies, steals and pees to bed since i had a new baby,she gets everything she wants and more... you mean to tell me she is embarassed thats crap... she is jelous and figures that everything should be her. i am starting her on diapers again and she will wear them to school, that will cause embarasment i know but this is not something i will tolerate. She gets all the attention possible from 3 adults now on a regular basis and you mean to tell me that bed wetting is to be tolerated. 3 WORDS... NOT A CHANCE" IN HELL OR ELSEWHERE...

Hello! I understand the frustration parents and children go through, as i have a child who wet the bed nightly (often several times) until he was 8 years old. We solved his bedwetting by using an alarm. The bedwetting alarm took about 2 months of patient use but has given us years of dry nights. I strongly recommend the book, Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness, by Renee Mercer for all parents dealing with a child's bedwetting. And buy the children's book, Prince Bravery and Grace - Attack of the Wet Knights by Gail Ann Gross. It is the story of a young prince who struggles with "the Wet Knights" and eventually defeats them by using an alarm. The story is fun and funny yet empathetic; It will give your child understanding and motivation to end their bedwetting. www.braveryandgrace.com has lots of positive information about solving bedwetting. Invest in the books-they make the process so much easier, then an alarm -its the best decision I ever made.

As a child and young teen I used to wet the bed all the time until my parents took me to the doctors. He said that my bladder was to small and this was quite common in children. The answer was to exercise the bladder. It was quite easy. The doctor told me that during the day, each time I had to urinate, to expel alittle bit of urine and then restrict the flow to a stop, count to 20 and then I could release the rest. Do this each time for about 3-4 days. Then the next 3-4 days when I urinated, count to 30 before I expelled the rest. Then count to 40 for 3-4 days, and at last 50 for 3-4 days. I stopped wetting the bed forever after only 1 week. I hope this helps someone.

I just happened onto this site when I saw the title Bedwetting.Everyone of my children bedwet until the were in their teens.Then miraculously I found the answer.It was a book and alarm system(which unfortunately I cannot remember the name of.The most important part was the exercise /training program that made the difference .My one child who really wanted to do the program was dry within about 2 weeks.The exercise is like a kegal exercise and works for both males and female. Together with the alarm it really works the best. My other child who was always too busy to follow the routine kept bedwetting. When he went away to school something had to be done so got him a prescription for bedwetting nose spray which he used every nite.If anyone asked he just told them it was his allergy spray. He used it till the end of the school yr and was dry after that.It was a very expensive solution but the right one for him. I got the book and the alarm from Sick Kid's Hospital" bedwetting " department in Toronto Ontario Canada.It was not expensive and worth every penny.I'm sure u can get it from any big city hospital.

My daughter struggled for years and then my friend told me to get her the WeeMinder Musical Reminder for her and one for me. It is for younger children, but they just used the watch alarm and it worked. You can set it to play every hour, two hours or 2.5 We set it for every hour at first during the weekend so it wasn't bothering her schooling to see when she was wetting then we lengthened the time and soon she could wake up herself. She just needed some extra help. I have to admit, I didn't try as hard as I could to train her earlier because I was just too exhausted to get myself up to help wake her. Better late than ever. This is on ly $20 compared to hundreds of dollars for the older version alarms. I have gotten really creative with it and use it to remind them about all sorts of things. The time just seems to get by me sometimes and this is so easy to program and whenever it goes off, it makes me stop and think. Just a suggestion that worked for me. I can never figure how to program a Timex or alarm clock.